DEALING WITH DISAPPOINTMENT

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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One doesn’t have to live too long before encountering disappointment. Even children at a very young age experience this unpleasant emotion. 

What exactly is disappointment, and how should we handle it?

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In his 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language, Noah Webster defines disappointment as “defeat or failure of expectation, hope, wish, desire or intention; miscarriage of design or plan.”

We see from this definition that disappointment involves expectations. It involves plans that have not come to fruition and hopes that have not been fulfilled.

Bottom line, disappointment is not getting what we’d hoped we would get.

So, what should we do when we experience disappointment? Here are some insights from God’s Holy Word:

1. Give your disappointments to God. Whenever we experience disappointment, our first step should be to turn to God. In Hebrews 13: 5, God says this: “I will never fail you. I will never forsake you.”  This means that God is with us even in the midst of our worst disappointment. He is with us when life crumbles around us, when relationships fall apart, when dreams turn to despair. He wants to comfort us in the midst of our disappointments and to help us learn from them. 

2. Realize that disappointments can build your character. It’s all up to you. In Romans 5: 3, we read this: “…We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” 

By the time I’d reached the age of twenty, I had experienced many serious disappointments in life. I remember standing in front of the mirror one morning, on the edge of despair. By God’s grace, as I stared at my reflection in the mirror, I suddenly realized that I had a choice. I could let my disappointments destroy me, or I could let them strengthen me.

Squaring my shoulders, I took a deep breath and, looking myself in the eye, I said aloud, “Girl, your past can either make you or break you. What’s it going to be?” Without hesitation, I replied, “My past is going to make me!” That decision set the course for the life I am living today. 

3. Balance your expectations with reality. Some people are afraid of disappointment and, therefore, refuse to expect anything of life. They refuse to set goals. They refuse to pursue dreams. All because they are afraid of being disappointed.

Others, on the other hand, set unrealistic goals that are outside of the realistic realm of possibility.  For example, they may set a goal to lose 20 lbs. in one week. Or they may set a goal to run a marathon without training for it. When they fail to achieve their goals, they become embittered or angry or depressed. 

Neither of the above scenarios is a healthful one. Both are unbalanced, and both lead to disappointment. 

4. Trust that disappointments are a blessing in disguise. As I look back over my own life, I realize that, in many cases, what I wanted was not what I needed. In His mercy, God gave me what I needed, and I am so very thankful.

Now, it’s your turn! How do you deal with disappointment?  Please share your insights in the box below. Thanks!

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WHEN ALL HOPE SEEMS GONE

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, Your Virtual Life Coach

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Wherever I turn, I find people who feel hopeless. Be it a teenager whose parents just divorced or an elderly person without a family, people everywhere struggle with despair.

According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, suicide is currently the tenth leading cause of death in the United States. On average, 121 people kill themselves every single day. That is 121 too many!

But suicide isn’t the only epidemic in the United States. Millions of people suffer from depression and depression-related disorders, like anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive disorders, bipolar disorder, and phobias. This should not be. Yet it is.

But why is it?

I would posit that many of these problems stem from a loss of hope, and a loss of hope stems from the lack of a deep, personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

The Bible tells us in Hebrews 6: 19 that hope is “an anchor for the soul.” In other words, hope keeps us stable and positive in the midst of obstacles. Hope keeps us looking ahead toward a better tomorrow. Toward the day when Christ will return and usher us into the eternal realm where all suffering will cease.

But while we are here on this earth, God wants us not only to survive, but also to thrive. And in order to do so, we must have hope. But our hope must be in the right place.

The only right place for our hope is in Jesus Christ. To hope in anything outside of Christ is to hope in vain, for only Christ is the Solid Rock on which hope can stand.

Much of our disappointment in life comes from the fact that we have hoped in the wrong thing or the wrong person. Perhaps we have placed our hope in a spouse or a child only to be disappointed in that spouse or that child. Perhaps we have placed our hope in a job or a career, only to be disappointed in that job or that career. Perhaps we have placed our hope in a friend who has betrayed us or a parent who has let us down.

Whatever the case, when we place our hope in imperfect human beings or in imperfect human situations, our hope will falter. But when we place our hope in the Perfect God, our hope will never fail.

In Psalm 39: 7, King David asks this question: “And so, Lord, where do I put my hope?” David answers his own question when he says: “My only hope is in You.”

David knew that the only safe repository of his hope was God. The same is true for us. When we place our hope in God, we will never be disappointed.

Perhaps you are listening today and you are feeling hopeless. Perhaps your life has crumbled and you don’t know where to turn. Perhaps you have even contemplated suicide or have already made arrangements to kill yourself. If I am talking to you, then I urge you to give yourself another chance.

You see, Satan wants to destroy you because you have a great purpose in God’s plan, and Satan wants to keep you from fulfilling that purpose. If you were not important to God, Satan would have no need to get you to feel hopeless or to kill yourself. But you are a threat to Satan, so he wants to eliminate you—to take you out of the picture. He does this by stealing your hope.

Without hope, we see no reason to go on. So, if Satan can steal your hope, he can steal your life and your blessings.

God, on the other hand, wants to give you life not steal it from you. He wants to give you hope and peace and every good thing. But in order to receive the hope that God wants to give you, you must receive it from His hand. You must, in short, come to Him.

God is waiting for you to do that now.

Today, if you are feeling hopeless, I urge you to turn to Jesus Christ. He is waiting with open arms for you to turn to Him. He wants to be your Hope. If you have not yet accepted Jesus as your Savior and Lord, I invite you to do so now. Just pray this simple prayer after me:

Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I admit that I am a sinner in need of Your mercy and grace. I acknowledge that You are the Son of God, that You died for me to pay the penalty for my sin, and that You rose from the dead. I receive You now as my Savior and Lord. Make of me all that You created me to be. Amen.

If you sincerely prayed this prayer, you are now a born-again child of God and follower of Jesus Christ. Place your hope in Him. I promise you that you will never be disappointed.

For more information to help you grow in your relationship with Jesus, I invite you to visit my website at maryanndiorio.com.

Now, it’s your turn! Do you ever feel hopeless? If so, what do you do to combat hopelessness?

Please share your insights in the box below. Thanks!

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VERBAL VENOM: A RECIPE FOR LIFELONG PAIN

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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I guided my shopping cart into the next aisle of the supermarket. At the far end of the aisle, a mother spewed verbal venom at her toddler daughter. Angry words. Hurtful words.

Demeaning words.

The little child cried loudly at her mother’s verbal onslaughts.

My heart went out to both mother and child.

This was not the first time I had seen such a public display of anger between a parent and child. My heart grieved, both for the child whose soul had been deeply wounded by her mother’s angry outburst and for the mother whose own wounded soul lay behind her wrongful behavior.

Whispering a quick prayer as to what, beyond praying, God might want me to do, I approached the young mother.

“You look as though you’re having a bad day. Is there anything I can do to help?”

Tears welled up in her eyes. “I’m having a terrible day.” She then proceeded to share with me a very difficult situation she was facing in her life.

Having once been a young mother myself, I empathized with her. At the same time, being extremely protective of children, I wanted to offer her a way of handling her frustration in a manner that would not hurt her child.

“I know what terrible days are like. When I feel angry and frustrated, I find it always helps to go to God. May I pray with you?”

She nodded as a tear trickled down her cheek.

Glancing at the little girl, whose big blue eyes were riveted on me, I prayed. “Lord Jesus, You know what’s going on in both this young mother’s life and in her child’s life. Bring Your peace and comfort to them now. Show her and her little girl how much You love them. Amen.”

Drying her tears, the young woman smiled, thanked me, and then went her way.

As my gaze followed her and her young child, I trusted that my prayer had somehow allayed the hurt in the mother’s heart and softened the blow of the wound in her little girl’s soul. I prayed that this young mother and her vulnerable child would, when times got tough, remember the lady in the supermarket who showed them that Jesus wants to heal every wound, no matter how terrible and no matter how deep.

All we have to do is ask.

I once heard someone say that hurting people hurt people. One of the worst ways we hurt others is through our words. The painful effect of words spoken in anger can last a lifetime and even alter the course of one’s life. Also, Scripture tells us that when we speak hurtful words, we hurt ourselves: “The merciful man does himself good, But the cruel man does himself harm.” (Proverbs 11: 17).

So let us pay attention to our words, especially the words we speak to children. They are not yet mature enough to nuance and to separate the wheat from the chaff. They simply absorb as true whatever they hear from our lips.

Let us purpose to speak only words of life, not death. In so doing, we shall reap life.

Now it’s YOUR turn! Have you been hurt by venomous words? What have you done to get over the hurt? Please comment in the box below. Thanks! 

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HOW TO HANDLE FRUSTRATION

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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FRUSTRATION!  We’ve all experienced it at one time or another. Yet, how do we handle it?

Some feed it by getting angry. Others squelch it by seething inwardly. Still others deny their frustration and hope it will just go away.

But none of these methods works in the long run.

So, what is the best way to handle frustration in our lives?

Before I offer my suggestions, I’d like first to define frustration. Possibly the best definition I’ve come across is this: “Frustration is the discrepancy between what we hoped to achieve and what we actually achieved.”

From this definition we see that frustration has to do with expectations. When we have expectations that do not pan out, we become frustrated. 

So, how can we avoid frustration in our lives and live the peaceful life Jesus died to give us?

Here are three tips that help me when I am tempted to be frustrated:

1–Set realistic expectations. A realistic expectation is one consistent with the situation in which you find yourself. For example, if you need to lose 20 lbs., it would be unrealistic to expect to lose all 20 lbs. in one week. To expect to lose 20 lbs. in one week would be setting yourself up for failure–and frustration.

2–Change your focus.  All of us have good traits as well as bad. When you find that someone’s behavior frustrates you, shift your focus from the person’s flaw to the person’s strength. For example, if your teenage son forgets to pick up his clothes from his bedroom floor, close his bedroom door and focus on the fact that he is kind, helpful, and respectful. 

“Frustration is the discrepancy between what we hoped to achieve and
what we actually achieved.”
 ~ Author Unknown

3–Practice gratitude. One of the best antidotes to frustration is the practice of gratitude. Instead of grumbling about what frustrates you, be thankful about the things that bless you. Take time every day to count your blessings. If you do, not only will you find your frustration level decreasing, but you will also find your happiness level rising to new heights.

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SECRETS OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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Last month, my husband and I celebrated our 48th wedding anniversary! Praise the Lord!

Young people often ask us how we stayed married for so long. While I can understand this question, given that those who ask it are usually Millennials, I still find it strange.

You see, my husband Dom and I grew up in an era when divorce was rare, and couples entered marriage with the mindset that they would make it work, no matter what. Divorce was not an option on our radar. Lifelong commitment was!

So, today I’d like to share a few reasons that my husband and I have built a strong marriage, a marriage that gets stronger every single day:

1) Both of us entered marriage with the firm conviction and the unwavering commitment that divorce would never be an option. Period! 

2) Both of us entered marriage with the attitude that marriage is not 50-50 but 100-100.  Each of us gives 100% to the other. We do not measure or keep score of what we do for each other. When we see a task that needs to be done, the one who is available and able to do it at the moment does it.

3) Both of us understand that marriage was instituted by God and is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church. We seek, therefore, to be a witness for Jesus Christ in and through our marriage. We put Him first in each of our lives, and we put Him first in our marriage. Each of us starts the day spending time in God’s Presence through worship, prayer, and Bible study. We also study the Word together, pray together, and attend church together.

4) Both of us understand that Satan hates marriage and will do whatever he can to destroy marriages, especially Christian marriages. When the enemy attempts to cause problems in our marriage–as he does in all marriages–we remember that we are not at odds with each other but that we are a team united against a common enemy who is out to destroy us. Because we are in Christ, we expect to overcome every single time because Jesus has already defeated Satan. Hallelujah!

5) Both of us do our best to laugh at least once a day–usually several times a day. My husband has a great sense of humor and can find humor in almost any situation. I have learned from him to look for the humor in the mundane, although I usually “get” jokes about a week after I hear them. 🙂

6) Both of us have learned to respect and honor our differences and to capitalize on them. As my husband has often said, “If we were exactly alike, one of us wouldn’t be necessary.”

7) Both of us have learned that love is, first and foremost, a decision and not a feeling. Love is an act of the will–a decision to put the other’s needs above one’s own, no matter how we may feel at the moment.

8) Each of us has learned to treasure the other as a unique creation of God. We respect each other as a precious child of God, and we do our best to treat each other with the constant knowledge that we will have to answer to God for how we treated His child.

Marriage takes work. God’s primary goal in marriage–and in life, in general–is not to make us happy but to make us holy. As we yield to our Lord, obeying His will as revealed in His Word, we will have not only deeply enriching marriages but also deeply enriching lives. The choice is ours!

Now it’s YOUR turn! What are your secrets for a successful marriage? Please comment in the box below. Thanks! 

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Matters of the Heart is a weekly blog that deals with the deepest issues of the human heart, the issues we all face but sometimes don’t want to talk about. The heart is the programming center of our lives. What is programmed into our heart will affect every area of our lives. Learn how to discover what is in your heart and how to program your heart for success.

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