DEALING WITH ANGER

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, Your Virtual Life Coach

Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

Many problems in relationships are caused by unprocessed anger. Anger is that God-given emotion that warns us when an injustice has been committed. Yes, anger is God-given. God Himself tells us to be angry, but not to sin in the process (Ephesians 4:26). Problems with anger arise when our God-given emotions are not handled properly, resulting in misunderstanding, conflict, and, sometimes, even violence. 

Like any emotion, anger has two parts: the feeling and the behavior. While we cannot control the feeling of anger, we can control the behavior that results from the feeling. Most people, however, have never learned how to control their behavior when they are angry.  Instead, they either explode by lashing out verbally and/or physically, or they implode by withdrawing and suppressing their negative feelings. Neither behavior is proper, and both lead to further problems,  emotional as well as physical.

If you are having trouble controlling your anger, here are some suggestions that will help you to do so in a healthful way:

1. Admit that you are angry. Say out loud something like the following: “I am angry about this situation. Now what do I plan to do about it?” This kind of statement helps you to be aware that you are angry and gives you time to think about the action you are going to take.

2. Control your immediate response. The triggering of all emotions involves a stimulus followed by a response. The split second between the stimulus and the response is the moment of choice. It is during that split second that we decide how we are going to respond to the stimulus.

When dealing with anger, decide ahead of time that when a stimulus triggers your anger, you will stop to think before responding to the anger.

Don’t give in to the two most common responses to anger: a) verbal or physical venting or b) the silent treatment. Count to ten, leave the room, or do whatever you have to do to avoid getting out of control. When I feel angry, I usually go off by myself to vent to God and to pray for His help in dealing with the situation that caused my anger. When you wait before responding to anger, you will avoid saying or doing things you will regret later.

3. Determine the cause of your anger. Ask yourself what triggered your anger. Was it a legitimate injustice, or was it an honest mistake? Often people allow themselves to get angry over something that later turns out to be insignificant.                                                                                                  

4. Consider your options. Ask yourself if the response you wish to make to your anger will help or hurt your relationship with the person who has wronged you. The two basic choices you have when facing anger are (a) lovingly confront the person who has wronged you or (b) decide to forget about the matter.

5. Act on the option you have chosen. If you’ve chosen to confront the person who has wronged you, do so in love. Listen to his side of the story. It may totally change your perception of the situation. If the person who has wronged you asks for your forgiveness, forgive him.

If you’ve chosen to forget about the matter, tell God what you’ve decided. Give your anger to God and trust Him to deal with the person who has wronged you in His own time and in His own way.

By implementing these five steps, you can turn your anger into something productive that will not destroy your relationships but actually improve them.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: How do you measure your spiritual growth?

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ARE YOU CURSED WITH THE BASTARD CURSE?

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, Your Virtual Life Coach

Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

Bastard!  Despite the way the word is sadly and indiscriminately used today to demean a person, the word “bastard” in its original definition denotes a person who has been conceived out of wedlock. 

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more commonly used word in our day is illegitimate. An illegitimate child is a child whose parents conceived him outside of marriage. Even if the parents married before the child was born, the child is still illegitimate according to the Word of God.

Contrary to popular belief, to conceive a child out of wedlock and then to marry before or after the birth of the child does not spiritually “legitimize” the child nor protect him from the bastard curse. The reason is that a child conceived out of wedlock is the fruit of the parents’ fornication or adultery at the time of conception. And, according to Scripture, when a child is conceived through fornication or adultery, that child is under the bastard curse. 

The bastard curse also applies to cases of rape and incest. A child born as a result of rape or incest is also considered illegitimate. In short, according to God’s Word any child conceived outside of the confines of the marriage covenant is a bastard.

WHAT IS THE BASTARD CURSE?
So, what exactly is the bastard curse and what are its effects?

The bastard curse is the curse that comes upon both the man and the woman who engaged in premarital or extramarital sex (fornication or adultery) and conceived a child out of wedlock, and also upon the child they conceived. Moreover, according to Scripture, the bastard curse lasts for ten generations unless one is delivered from it by the power and blood of Christ.

Also, if a woman aborts a child conceived out of wedlock, the abortion does not set the parents or the aborted child free from the bastard curse. Of course, the child is no longer alive, but the parents of the child are still under the bastard curse and can pass it on to future children, including those conceived in marriage. Even if the parents have repented of the sin of abortion, they must still repent of allowing the bastard curse into their lives through fornication or adultery and remove the curse from themselves. 

It greatly behooves us, therefore, to understand this curse, its effects on our lives, and how to break its power over our lives.

UNDERSTANDING THE BASTARD CURSE
In calculating the ten generations of the curse, the parents of the illegitimate child are considered the first generation of the curse. The illegitimate child is considered the second generation of the curse. And so on down the line until the tenth generation is reached.

Two passages in Scripture deal with the bastard curse: Deuteronomy 23: 2 and Hebrews 12: 6. 

Deuteronomy 23: 2 – “A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord. An Ammonite or Moabite shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD; even to their tenth generation shall they not enter into the congregation of the LORD….”

Hebrews 12: 6: – “For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”

In the first passage from Deuteronomy, God decrees that the bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord for ten generations. He includes as bastards the Ammonites and the Moabites. You may recall that these two nations resulted from the incestuous relationships of Lot’s daughters with their father (Genesis 19: 30-38).

In the second passage from Hebrews, the Lord makes clear that He disciplines only those whom He accepts as His legitimate children. Bastards who have not been delivered from the bastard curse are not accepted as legitimate children of God.

EFFECTS OF THE BASTARD CURSE
The bastard curse causes many spiritual, emotional, and psychological issues. Chief among them are the following:

–Shame
–Guilt
–Abandonment Issues
–Fear
–Rejection
–Self-hatred
–Double-mindedness
–Feelings of not fitting in
–Difficulty establishing and maintaining intimate relationships

The bastard curse keeps people from fellowship with God and with other people. Satan continually tempts people to fall prey to this curse so that it will continue from generation to generation. 

In addition to Lot’s daughters who gave birth to the Ammonites and Moabites via their incestuous relationship with their father, there are other instances of the bastard curse in the Bible. Here are three more of them:

–Hagar’s conception of Ishmael by Abraham (Genesis 16: 11-12). The descendants of Ishmael are still under the bastard curse. 

–Tamar’s conception of Pharaz and Zarah by her father-in-law Judah (Genesis 38: 1-30). 

–Bathsheba’s conception of Solomon by David. 

“A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation
shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord.” – Deuteronomy 23: 2

HOW TO BE SET FREE FROM THE BASTARD CURSE
The bastard curse is a powerful curse in that it causes corruption that lasts for generations. This curse is a key means by which Satan has tried to corrupt bloodlines. He particularly attempted to use the bastard curse to corrupt the bloodline from which Christ would be born. But Satan’s plan never transpired because he did not know that Jesus would descend only from the woman’s seed and not from a human father’s seed. 

I would venture to say that few, if any, of us have escaped the bastard curse. If one considers the history of the world, it is easy to see that marauding nations engaged in the rape of countless women, and those rapes resulted in the conception of many bastard children. In addition, as long as people have been on earth, many have committed fornication and adultery resulting in conception.

Years ago, while discussing my family history with my father, I learned that my great-grandfather was quite likely conceived as a result of the rape of my great-great-grandmother by either a ruthless landowner or by a priest.  Such situations, unfortunately, were commonplace in the Sicilian culture of the time, due to the feudal-type society where landowners and others of the ruling class exploited the peasants.

My heroine in my novel, The Madonna of Pisano, the first book in my trilogy titled The Italian Chronicles, is based on my great-great-grandmother’s life. Holy Spirit showed me that she was an innocent victim and that He wanted me to exonerate her good name in my story. While the story is fictional, the seed idea for it came from my great-great-grandmother’s experience.

Since I am the fifth generation from my great-great-grandmother and the man who violated her, I have had to break the bastard curse over my own life so that it would not be passed on and continue in the lives of my descendants.

If you know that the bastard curse is on your life–either because of your own sin or the sin of your ancestors–pray this prayer of deliverance with me now:

Father God, I come to You in the mighty and matchless Name of Jesus. I repent of any and all sinful behavior in my own life and/or in the lives of my ancestors for the past ten generations that opened the door to the bastard curse in my life and in the lives of my descendants. In the Name of Jesus, I place those sins under the Blood of Christ shed at Calvary. I ask, Father, that You would forgive and cleanse me and my lineage of this destructive curse. I thank You, Father, that I can now come freely into the congregation of the Lord and have close fellowship with You and with my brothers and sisters in Christ. I thank You, Father, that You now consider me Your legitimate child worthy of your discipline. I ask, Father, that You would help me to overcome the negative habits that may have embedded themselves in my soul as a result of living under this horrific curse. I thank You and praise You in the Name of Jesus for delivering me and my descendants of the bastard curse. I thank You, Holy Spirit, for filling my life with the blessings of Your fellowship and the fellowship of the saints. Amen.

If you prayed this prayer, please let me know. You will experience a dramatic change in your life as the bastard curse is removed from your life and from the lives of your descendants.

Also, if you’d like to read my historical novel inspired by my great-great-grandmother’s life, please check out The Madonna of Pisano  available in both print and ebook formats. 

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Has this post be an eye-opener for you? If so, how?

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DANCING WITH THE CHILDREN

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

MARYANN’S NOTE: At Holy Spirit’s direction, I wil be posting a few personal experience stories over the next few weeks. These experiences happened to me personally and reveal God’s supernatural presence and power in our lives. I trust that these stories will encourage you, inspire you, and reveal to you how much God loves you and is involved with your life as well.
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DANCING WITH THE CHILDREN
by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD

The church sanctuary filled with the sweet fragrance of Holy Spirit’s Presence.

As I raised my hands in worship and sang praises to the Father from the depths of my heart, I suddenly found myself transported in the spirit to another realm. I was standing in the throne room of Heaven, participating in a magnificent worship service. Millions of saints, with uplifted holy hands, sang in joyful praise and worship to the Father.

My eyes scanned their faces, radiant with love and adoration. All eyes faced forward and focused on the front of the room. Following their unified gaze, my eyes beheld a Brilliant Being Who sat on a magnificent throne at the far end of the huge space.

Abba Father.

My heart instantly knew.

And my heart instantly bowed.

His countenance glowed with intense pleasure at watching His children enjoy His presence. His lips held a smile that was beyond description in its beauty and its grace.

His demeanor was at once kingly yet common. Common in the sense of humble and unassuming.

I could not take my eyes off of Him.

Nor did I want to.

Lights of colors the likes of which I had never seen emanated from His Being. Sounds of frequencies the likes of which I had never heard emanated from His voice.

The music was festive. Lively.

And very Jewish.

My feet began to move in rhythm to its joyful sounds. All around me, my brothers and sisters in Christ began to dance before the Father, their faces beaming with the fun of the moment. Tambourines sounded; cymbals crashed; voices rose in glorious timbres and tones to praise the great and wonderful God of the Universe.

The joy in the hearts of the saints was palpable as they filled the atmosphere with their loud shouts of praise.

Suddenly, my eyes noticed movement on the Throne. To my great surprise and even greater delight, Abba Father got up from His throne, descended the long stairway leading up to it, and joined His children in the dance.

Cheers arose from the congregation as they watched Father join them in their dance.

My heart beat wildly. Tears flowed from my eyes. I was taken aback by His utter humility. He had become one of us. Indeed, I could tell that His enormous delight lay in that very act of becoming one of us.

My eyes remained glued to the Father, as did my heart. One at a time, He took the hands of His children and spun them around in circles of joy. Laughing. Singing.

Blessing.

No one was slighted. Everyone was touched by His loving hand.

And His loving heart.

As I watched, mesmerized by His love, He turned toward me.

My heart skipped a beat as He headed toward me.

Straight toward me.

All time stood still as His compassionate eyes penetrated my spirit with their infinite love. Now He stood before me, kind and expectant. Nodding slightly, he took both of my hands in His, and I felt the merging of His heart with mine.

In that instant, I was the only one in the large hall. Everyone else had disappeared into the background.

Abba Father had eyes only for me.

The next thing I knew, He was whirling me around the dance floor, as a Father does with His little girl at a wedding.

And, as a little girl dancing with her Papa at a wedding feels the delight of His acceptance, His approval, and His love, so did I.

Together we whirled around the dance floor, His strength carrying me, His eyes never leaving mine. They twinkled and sparkled and laughed. They danced in merriment and rejoiced in delight.

And, most of all, they loved me.

My heart joined my feet in being lifted off the ground.

I had the distinct impression that as Abba danced only with me, He was also dancing only with each of His children in that great hall. On a level I cannot explain, I knew that, in relating to Abba, everyone felt as though he or she were the only one in the entire sanctuary. That is the way of the Father.

There is something about the Father’s love that makes one feel that she alone is the apple of His eye.

For several beautiful moments, I was caught up in the ecstasy of that other-world experience. Then, slowly, and a bit sadly, I stepped back from the spirit realm and returned to the church sanctuary to rejoin my physical body.

But I returned a different person. I returned as one who had experienced the goodness of God in a profound way.

I returned as one who would henceforth know firsthand that I am deeply loved, totally accepted, and warmly approved by the Father.

Most of all, I returned as one who had caught a glimpse into the Father’s heart and would never again be the same.
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Copyright 2015-2017 by MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved.

This article first appeared in Book Fun Magazine, October 2015.

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NOTE: If you are struggling to know your purpose in life, I can help you! As a highly experienced Certified Life Coach, I will help you set priorities in line with your God-given purpose. For more information or to set up a phone appointment, please send me an email at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. You will be taking a major step toward fulfilling your destiny!

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WHEN GOD GOT PERSONAL

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

MARYANN’S NOTE: At Holy Spirit’s direction, I wil be posting a few personal experience stories over the next few weeks. These experiences happened to me over the past several years and reveal God’s supernatural presence and power in our lives. I trust that these stories will bless you, encourage you, and reveal to you how much God loves you and is involved in your life as well.
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WHEN GOD GOT PERSONAL
by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD, MFA

“She looks pale,” the pediatrician said as he examined my two-month-old daughter. “I want to run some blood tests on her.”

The year was 1977. The month was November. My husband, our firstborn daughter Lia, and I had recently celebrated the joyous arrival of our second child. All seemed well in our world.

At the doctor’s words, my heart clutched. “What do you think is the problem?”

His eyes reflected concern. “I’m not sure just yet. Let’s wait to see what the blood tests show.”

I swallowed hard and nodded. I don’t know what’s happening, Lord, but whatever it is, I will trust You.

I had been a follower of Jesus Christ for seven years. During that time, I had gotten to know Jesus through reading His Word, through prayer, and through fellowship with other believers. But I didn’t want only to know Jesus vicariously through the experiences of others. I wanted to sense His pulse. To see Him in action.

To feel His heartbeat.

As I read the Gospels, I noticed that people experienced Jesus. They had life-changing encounters with Him that affected their lives in personal ways. Encounters that touched them physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Encounters that changed the course of their lives.

I wanted to be a character in the Gospels. I wanted to be able to say that Jesus was not only the Savior of the world but that He was the Savior of my world.

The pediatrician turned toward me. “I’m ordering a test at the children’s hospital in the city. You will not be able to feed Gina for twelve hours prior to the test since it requires that she be fasting.”

My heart sank. My baby nursed every two hours. To deprive her of food for an entire twelve hours seemed impossible.

I mumbled a thank you and left the doctor’s office with my baby cradled in my arms and with both of us cradled in the arms of Jesus.

On the drive home, I cried out to God in anguish. “Lord, I can’t bear the thought of my Gina screaming in hunger throughout the night. You have to do something!”

The test was scheduled for a couple of days later. The night before the test, Gina fell asleep at 7:00pm. For the first time in her young life, she slept all through the night! 

But not only did she sleep all through the night, she was also still asleep when my husband and I put her in the car to go to the hospital. She slept during the entire one-hour trip to the hospital. She went into the test asleep, and she awakened only after the test was over at 9:00am. Fourteen hours of straight sleep! And fourteen hours with no food. At that point, I had a hungry baby on my hands.

My heart overflowed with thanksgiving as I gave glory to God for this miracle.

My husband and I returned home with our baby to await the test results. When they arrived shortly thereafter, they revealed the presence of an incurable lymph gland disease with a prognosis of a life span that would most likely not exceed nine years.

Fear clamped its sharp claws around my mind and whispered its ugly lies. “Your daughter is going to die.”

Braced with the Word of God, I attacked that spirit of fear with the vengeance of an angry mama bear protecting her cub from danger. “Oh, no, Satan!” My words shot through the air. “You are a liar and the father of lies. My God says that my Gina was healed by the stripes of Jesus. And what He says is true. So I silence you, foul spirit of fear, in the Name of Jesus.”

As my circumstantial world spun in a violent downward spiral, my spirit resisted and soared to grab hold of God’s promise of healing. I could not let my baby die. I would not let my baby die. In His Word, God said she was redeemed from the curse. I could stake my child’s life on that truth.

In obedience to our Lord’s command in Mark 16 to lay hands on the sick, and in accordance with His promise in the same chapter that if I did so, the sick would recover, my husband and I laid hands on our precious baby daughter and commanded the sickness to leave her body.

A pole shift occurred in the spirit realm as my Gina’s life shifted to a new axis, the axis of Truth. I fully expected her to be healed. The thought of her not being healed had no permission to enter my mind.

A few days after laying hands on my baby, I sat in my family room worshipping the Lord while Gina slept in her cradle beside me. As I worshipped and thanked Jesus for healing my baby, I felt compelled to turn on the television. I recognized the Holy Spirit’s prompting and obeyed it.

At the very instant I turned on the TV, Dr. Pat Robertson of the 700 Club was praying. He looked up at the camera and said, “There is a baby in the TV viewing audience with a lymph gland disorder, and God is healing her now.” Instantly, a sensation of warm oil poured over me, covering the top of my head and flowing down over my entire body. I jumped out of my chair and shouted, “That’s my Gina! That’s my Gina!”

I called my husband. A physician himself, he wisely advised that we obtain medical confirmation of Gina’s healing. When I took her back to the pediatrician, he ran repeat tests and could find no sign whatsoever of disease. The word of knowledge Dr. Robertson had brought forth proved true. My Gina was healed!

And I had experienced Jesus in a tangible, personal way. He had shown me His heart.

And His heart was to heal.

Today, my Gina is a beautiful, healthy 39-year-old young woman serving the Lord with all of her heart. She is a living testimony to God’s healing power and to the truth of His Word.

Most of all, she is a living testimony to the God Who proved to me that He wants to bring salvation not only to the entire world, but especially to my personal world.
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Copyright 2015-2017 by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

If you found this post helpful, please forward it to a friend. Thank you! Check our archives in the right sidebar for older posts on a variety of topics. You may also search for a particular topic in the search box at the top right. Some of our most popular posts are:

Touched by Angels

Sex and Soul Ties

The Deadly Trap of Tolerance

Victim or Victor: Which One Are You?

How to Conquer Stinkin’ Thinkin’


For additional encouragement, check out my podcasts at the following links:

A Moment with MaryAnn – Podcasts on Living the Good Life

Winning with the Word Podcast Series

Write Your Heart Out! – Podcasts for Writers

NOTE: If you are struggling to know your purpose in life, I can help you! As a highly experienced Certified Life Coach, I will help you set priorities in line with your God-given purpose. For more information or to set up a phone appointment, please send me an email at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. You will be taking a major step toward fulfilling your destiny!

Please tell your family and friends about this blog and please pass this post on to them. Thank you!
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To help you learn about your true identity in Christ, I wrote YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS!. This book will reveal to you the power and authority you have to bring about effective change in your life through Jesus Christ. Get your copy now!

 

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Seven Keys to Successful Parenting

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
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Parenting is a privilege and a responsibility. I know of no parent who intentionally wants to mess up in this very important job, but some of us do simply because we neglect to keep in mind some basic Biblical principles.

So, from one parent to another, please allow me to share with you seven keys to successful parenting that I learned on my own parenting journey:

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1. Love your child. At first glance, this sounds like a no-brainer. But what does it really mean? It means to discipine and train your child according to God’s Word. It means to do for your child what he needs, not what he wants.

Too many parents confuse loving their child with giving in to their child. This is backwards. Unfortunately, many parents give their child everything he wants out of fear of losing their child’s love. This is a very dangerous practice.We will never win the love of our children by giving in to their demands. Worst of all, we will lose their respect, and respect is the foundation of love.

When my children tried to get their way, I used to tell them that I was not in a popularity contest and I didn’t care if they liked me or not. I was going to do the right thing by them. To this day, they jokingly remind me of that phrase with thanksgiving.

2. Know your child. To know your child means to understand her heart. Each child is wired differently. It is up to you as the parent to learn how your child is wired.  You do this by asking God to show you and by spending time with your child, listening carefully to what your child says and observing how your child responds to situations.

Ask your child questions. Do you know your child’s favorite color? Favorite food? Favorite animal? If you don’t, then you need to get to know your child better.

3. Respect your child. Children are little people. They are not inferior people. Treat your child with the same respect you would give to an adult, because your child is an adult-in-the-making.

Respect your child by being courteous to him, giving him all of your attention when he speaks, maintaining eye contact with him. Encourage your child, and never belittle him through your words or your actions.

4. Expect the best from your child. We will get in life what we expect. If you expect your child to go through the terrible-twos, your child will go through the terrible-twos. If you expect your teenager to rebel, your teenager will rebel. dial

Frankly, I never expected my children to go through the terrible-twos nor to rebel as teenagers. And they never did. I expected the opposite, and I got what I expected.

Children can sense your expectations and will fulfill them. So, speak words of life over your children. Say to them what you expect them to be. Tell them they are wise and courageous and Godly. They will fulfill what you speak about them.

5. Guide your child. There is a popular saying that good parents give their children roots and wings. We can give our children roots in the Word of God, the only place worth putting down roots.

As they are rooted in the Word of God, the wings that you give them will be wings of wisdom, discernment, and understanding–wings that will cause them to fly to safe places, places of righteousness that will keep them from stumbling in life.

6. Enjoy your child. Children are fun. Some of the best times you will have in life will be with your children. Spend time with them. Lots of time.

Get involved in their activities. Grow with them. Most of all, be childlike with them. There is a little child still inside you. Let that inner child come out when you spend time with your children. The rewards will be great both for you and for your children.

Jesus said that in order to enter the Kingdom of Heaven, we must become like little children (Matthew 18: 2-3).  Spending time with your children will renew this perspective in your own life and bring you great joy.

keystocharacters7. Pray for your child. It goes without saying that we should pray for our children, but sometimes we parents need a reminder. If you have not been praying for your children, begin now. Prayer is one of the most powerful tools in a parent’s arsenal. Use it frequently.

Of this you can be sure: God is more invested in your children than you are. He will give you all the wisdom you need to face every parenting challenge as you yield to Him in prayer.

So, there you have it: Seven Keys for Successful Parenting. Use these keys regularly, and you will soon be enjoying the friendship of Godly adult children–respectful and respected–whom you have had the privilege of rearing with the gracious and ever-present help of the Lord.

NOW IT’S YOUR TURN: What is your greatest parenting challenge? How can one or more of the seven steps above help you overcome this challenge?

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