by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, Your Virtual Life Coach

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

Satan wants your tongue! Why? Because your tongue is the programmer of your life. If he can get control of your tongue, he can get control of you and your future.

Have you noticed that when God created the universe, He used words? In other words, He “spoke” everything into existence. God said, “Let there be light” and there was light. In fact, throughout the first chapter of Genesis, we read over and over, “God said . . . And there was.” “God said . . . And there was.” “God said . . . And there was.” 

When God said something, it came into existence.

Well, since we are made in God’s image, we function the same way. When we say something, it comes into existence. This makes the words we speak of utmost importance, wouldn’t you agree?

So, what words are you speaking? Are you speaking words that agree with God’s Word, or are you speaking words that agree with Satan? The Bible calls Satan “a liar and the father of lies” (John 8: 44). One definition of the verb “lie” is “to twist the truth”. Whenever we speak words that contradict what God says about us, we are twisting the truth and allowing ourselves to be used as tools of Satan. We are acting as tongue-twisters. Not a good thing!

“Your tongue is the programmer of your life.”
                                                                         ~ Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

Proverbs 18: 21 tells us that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” This means that with your tongue you can point your life toward death or toward life. Pretty heavy stuff!  Which will it be for you?

As one who has struggled much in the area of the tongue, I humbly offer three suggestions that have helped me:

1–Think before you speak (Ecclesiastes 5: 2).

2–Choose your words carefully (Matthew 12: 36-37; Psalm 19: 14).

3–Ask the Lord to put a guard over your mouth (Psalm 141: 3).

Applying these three principles to your speech will radically transform your speech and help you to align it with God’s Word/

Remember: Your tongue is the programmer of your life. Make sure you program your life with God’s Word. Then watch your life become filled with life.

Now, it’s YOUR turn:  Do you have trouble controlling your tongue?  What can you do about that? Please leave your response in the Comment Box below. Thank you!

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(Business) Should I Self-Publish?

self-publishing2Most of my writing has been traditionally published, but one of my books was self-published.  Would I do it again? It depends on a few very important factors.

1) Self-publishing requires a significant outlay of cash if you are planning to publish in print format. The cost could run you several thousand dollars, depending on the number of copies you print.  Electronic books, however, require far less in terms of cash outlay, although you will have to pay for the conversion of your manuscript into computer code for reading devices. This conversion process could cost you hundreds of dollars.

2) Self-publishing will require the same excellence required in traditional publishing. Your manuscript must be topnotch and worthy of your readers. To achieve this end, you will need to hire a professional editor to proof-read your book.

3) Self-publishing requires that you be the sole marketer of your book. While this is becoming the case with traditionally published books, self-publishing makes you the chief cook and bottle-washer. As a result, you will need to learn a lot about the business side of publishing.

4) Self-publishing allows you to beat the clock and keep all the profits. These are the two primary reasons that writers self-publish. They don’t want to wait a year or two before their book is published, and they want to make good money on their books.

Self-publishing is not for everyone. But if it is for you, do it with excellence, just as you would write your book.


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(Business) Social Media: Sorting the Best from the Good

gpsOverwhelm is the new emotional and psychological disorder of our day.  Jesus prophesied that in the last days, information would abound and people would be going to and fro seeking it (Daniel 12:4). Does this sound like you? It certainly sounds like me.  Until recently, that is, when I decided that I needed to reorder my priorities.

I was being bombarded by so many social media venues that my head started spinning. After going around in several circles, I realized that I needed to take drastic measures.  I needed to evaluate the social media venues I was using and analyze them to determine which were giving me the greatest return. I labeled some as good, some as better, and some as best.  Here are the questions I asked myself in making this determination:

1) How much time is this social medium costing me?  Yes, costing.  Every minute we spend on something is a minute we take from something else. We all have only 24 hours in a day.  How we spend those minutes will determine our success or failure in life.  So activities have price tags.  For me, the costliest activities are those that could potentially compromise my relationship with God in terms of time and distraction.  When considering a new activity, I first ask myself if that activity will jeopardize my relationship with God or will it enhance my relationship with God. If there is any question that the activity under consideration will jeopardize my relationship with God, I trash the idea.

2) How much benefit is this social medium giving me? The time spent must be worth the reward. If there is no tangible benefit from using the social medium in terms of business growth (read: book sales, customer relationships, influence), I give the venue a lower grade.

3) How much creative energy am I expending by using this social medium? Energy expended is energy expended, whether creative or physical.  If I expend my creative energy surfing social media, will I have enough creative energy left to write?

The writing life is a continual re-setting of one’s course.  Just as airplane pilots continually re-set their course, so must we. But, praise God, we have the best GPS system in the universe: Holy Spirit.  As we seek Him, hear His voice, and obey Him, we will make right decisions regarding how to order our days.

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(Craft) How to Unsag Your Middle

sagging middleNo. This is not a blog post about strengthening your midriff.  It is, however, a blog post about strengthening the middle of your novel.

Unless well-planned in advance, novels often threaten to sag as they reach the midpoint.  So, what can you do to prevent a sagging middle?  Here are a few proven tips:

1) The middle of your story is where your protagonist enters a new world. At this point, she needs to learn the rules of this new world. Ask yourself this question:  What are the rules of this new world?

2) Give your protagonist tests while she learns the rules of her new world.  Show her struggling to pass those tests.

3) At the end of the middle, your protagonist will encounter the worst test of the story. Create a test that will defy all solution, then have your protagonist pass the test. 

The middle should be the most exciting part of your story.  When you know what goes into the middle and how to put it there, you will create a strong middle that will result in a strong story from beginning to end. 

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