The Courage to Say No

Psychologists tell us that children hear the word “No” more than any other word during their early years of life. Is this a reason that many of us have trouble saying “No” when asked to do something we are not called to do? 

The failure to say “No” is at the top of the list of reasons for those who fail to write regularly. Fearing rejection or lack of approval, many writers will assume responsibilities that not only were not theirs to assume but, worst of all, that keep them from fulfilling their call to write. 

As a little exercise to prepare for the new year, make a list of all the activities in which you are currently involved. Then, one by one, take each activity and ask God if He told you to do it. If not, why are you doing it? Is it that you are afraid to say no? Is it that you fear rejection or disapproval? 

If so, adopt a new attitude for the new year. Determine that whatever opportunity comes your way, you will consult God first. Then determine that you will take on only those activities which He instructs you to take on. If you are called to write, you may discover that those activities are far fewer than you thought.

 

Blessings,

MaryAnn

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2 thoughts on “The Courage to Say No

  1. My biggest problem is not failing to say, “No,” but rather believing people when they say a project won’t take much time. I say, “double, triple, quadruple whatever they tell you.” It will be a lot closer to the truth.

    Blessings,
    Susan 🙂

    December 15, 2008 at 9:13 PM

  2. I’m getting better at saying NO. And I’ve cut out many things. The problem I have now is that NEW things are constantly bombarding me with their all-fired importance! HA!

    And then I’m back to saying NO … or, at least, trying to!

    December 16, 2008 at 7:48 AM