No matter how you slice it, rejection hurts. One of the first lessons those of us who are writers must learn is how to handle rejection. Rejection is one of those things that can either make you or break you, depending on how you handle it.
Here are few thoughts to keep in mind when rejection strikes:
1) A rejected manuscript is not a rejection of you as a person. Writers need to learn to separate who they are from what they do. This can be difficult, especially since we tend to look on our writing as our “children”. Don’t mess with my babies! 🙂
2) Opinions about our writing are not always completely objective. An editor’s opinion may contain some subjectivity in it. Some people like certain types of fiction, while others do not. Learn to listen with an open heart and an open mind. Then use what you can and throw the rest away.
3) Look beyond the feelings of rejection. If you hear the same comments over and over again about your writing, pay attention. Someone is trying to help you.
Finally, when feelings of rejection threaten to overwhelm you, remember that no one can reject you without your permission.