Tuesday, Apr 14, 2015

Sex and Soul Ties

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

soul tiesIf you’ve had sex outside of marriage, you formed a soul tie—or more than one—that may be the cause of the emotional, psychological, and physical problems that are now tormenting you.

What is a soul tie? A soul tie is the spiritual link that is formed between two souls during sexual intercourse. First Corinthians 6:16 describes a soul tie: “And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, ‘The two are united into one.’ ” This uniting into one is a soul tie.

When the soul tie is created only in marriage, the link is lawful and the two souls involved are blessed because of their obedience to God’s commandment to have sex only within the context of the marriage relationship. But if the soul tie is created through sex outside of marriage, all kinds of serious problems result.

A soul tie created by sex outside of marriage is the unlawful tying together of two souls. This unlawful tying together causes spiritual bondage between the two souls for the rest of their lives unless the soul tie is broken through the power of Jesus Christ. Because of this spiritual bondage, the demonic spirits found in one person can transfer to the other person, and vice versa.

In today’s culture, we consider two people married when they have gone through the wedding ceremony. In Biblical times, two people were considered married once they had sexual intercourse. So, in God’s eyes, marriage results from sexual intercourse, not from a wedding ceremony.

Interestingly, in some states, when a couple wants to get a divorce, the judge will ask them if the marriage has been consummated. In other words, he will ask them if they have had sex yet because, according to the law in that state, a relationship becomes a marriage when the couple has had sex.

In light of this understanding, every time someone has sex with another person, she is married to that person. Not only that, but every time someone has sex with another person, her soul is tied to that other person’s soul.

So, if a girl has sex with five guys, in God’s eyes she has married five times and her soul has been tied to at least five other souls. In most cases, the number of soul ties is even greater since each of the guys may have had multiple sex partners.

Do the math. This means that a girl who engages in premarital sex with one guy can be tied to hundreds of other souls without even knowing it. Yet, all of those other souls are affecting her every day.

No wonder so many people are suffering so much emotional, psychological, and physical torment! They are in bondage to hundreds of other souls all of whom have demonic forces operating against them. And all of these demonic forces combined are operating against that one person who chose to have sex outside of marriage.

Consider this example. Let’s say a guy sleeps with a girl who is involved in the occult. Afterwards, he begins having nightmares and develops unreasonable fears. This guy, who, before sleeping with the girl was never afraid of anything, is now terrified of everything. Why? The reason is that the demons of the occult in the girl’s soul transferred to the guy’s soul when he slept with her.

Not a pretty picture, is it? Does it make you think twice about having sex outside of marriage?

Soul ties can also be caused by sexual abuse or unhealthful emotional relationships. In such cases, the same Jesus Christ who wants to deliver you from the sin of premarital sex will deliver you from the soul ties created through sexual abuse.

Remember this: Sex outside of marriage will destroy your soul. This is the reason that God forbids it. He is not out to keep you from pleasure. He is out to keep you from pain.

Questions: 1) Do you have to repent of unlawful soul ties? 2) Are you aware that Jesus Christ is the only way for you to break unlawful soul ties? 3) Will you ask for and receive His cleansing and restoration of your soul? In Psalm 23, He promises to restore your soul. The word “heart” is another word for “soul.”

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32 thoughts on “Sex and Soul Ties

    • Hi! I would love to know what biblical evidence there is for this? How “Two will become one” suddenly means soul ties and transferring demons and energy when there is nothing in the bible to support that statement? I believe sex can be sacred and for a Christian it should be however so many Christians and pastors make so many claims about sex without any biblical evidence to back it up, just language that has been used to oppress any sort of sex outside marriage. Thanks !

      • Hello, Bianca,

        Thank you so much for your comment. I agree with you that many claims are made about sex without Biblical evidence to back them up. Yet, regarding sex outside of marriage, there are verses that forbid this. For example, Hebrews 13: 4 AMP says this: “Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” This verse clearly shows that sex outside of marriage defiles a person, or makes him or her spiritually unclean.

        Sex outside of marriage violates the covenant made between a man and a woman when they marry. This covenant symbolizes the covenant between Christ and His Bride, a covenant that is sacred and holy and pure. Today the cultural consensus is that sex outside of marriage is okay as long as there are two consenting adults. But this is not what the Bible says. It is important to remember that God created sex. It is His idea. And He has established boundaries to the sexual relationship not to keep us from having fun but to protect us from physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual harm.

        Thank you again for reaching out. I pray God’s blessings on your life. May you come to comprehend His love for you in a very deep way.:)

  1. I have to ask do you people really believe this?
    How can souls if they exist be tied by sex for all it’s pleasure it’s just a biological method of reproduction. Just animals trying to make More animals before they die.

    • Hi, Edward,

      Thank you for your comment. Yes, people really believe this. 🙂 The reason is that God created us as three-part beings. We have a spirit (who we really are at the core); we have a soul (our mind, our will, and our emotions); and we live in a body. We are not just a physical body. If that were the case, then, yes, you would be right in saying that sex is just a means of reproduction. But we are higher than animals. We have thoughts and feelings, and we can speak.

      In Psalm 139, God tells you that He made you and that you are an awesome creation of His. I encourage you to read that Psalm. You are far more valuable than you think. You are not just a compilation of molecules. You are a man created in the very image of God.

      Thank You again for your comment. I deeply appreciate your taking the time to share your thoughts. Blessings to you, Edward!

  2. I’m doing a talk on soul ties and all I can gather frm it is a soul, mind will and emotional tie. Still no talk of spirit transfers. When King Saul disobeyed God the spirit of the Lord left him and he was given a spirit of torment. That had nothing to do with sex.Is there a scriptural evidance of this transference.? so far it seems more theoretical. Becoming one body even with a prostitute may make them married but nothing of a spiritual transfer. It’s a good example but where are the facts. Jesus delivered a legion and sent them to the pigs. They in turn ran off a cliff and died, where did the spirits go from there. Looking for a clean place. Spiritual settling comes through the mind by what one believes. I’m open to any scripture that supports your statements. Give me facts. Also it sounds like spiritual possession.

    • Hello, Mr. Rakowski:

      Thank you for your comment on my blog post titled “Sex and Soul Ties.” You are right that a soul tie is not a tie of spirit to spirit but, rather, of soul to soul. As you rightly state, the soul consists of the mind, the emotions, and the will.

      There is no spirit transfer in a soul tie in the sense that the spirit of one person is not transferred to the spirit of the other person involved in the relationships. One human spirit cannot be transferred to another human spirit.

      In an illicit sexual relationship, that which is transferred are the evil spirits oppressing one or both parties. Just as Jesus transferred the evil spirits from the demoniac’s soul to the souls of the pigs, so are the evil spirits harassing one person’s soul transferred to the soul of the other person with whom one has illicit sexual intercourse.

      The soul is connected to both the spirit and the body and is the bridge between them. The soul is also included in the concept of the “flesh” as described in the Bible. The flesh consists of the body and the soul.

      I hope this answers your very valid and excellent questions.

      Scripture verses on soul ties:

      In the two verses below, the word “flesh” includes the soul as well as the body:

      Ephesians 5: 31— “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

      Mark 10: 7-9: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,[a] 8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.

  3. Sex and Soul Ties;
    Hi Mary Ann. I just read your article on this subject and it is absolutely right on! Thank you for sharing it and using your gifts and talents for the body of Christ. You are such a blessing to the body of Christ.
    Dan Malone

  4. hey my name is nathan bethea i’ve just turned 18 and had sex for the 1st time ever, after having sex i felt this pain because I knew me and this person would not be together. it hurts me and my soul i fell so connected to the girl. I didnt know sex would feel or be like that. In this world of sin they teach sex as if its something fun to do, and once u do it, its not wat they say or looks like. im sorry to you and God for my sins, and i will not have sex again. but these things should be talked about and tought to us kids or young ones the right way. they know sex do this to people, that why they teach to younger ppl or virgins so they to can feel this pain, and now Im sad because i to feel it now. the demons that Ive gained tell me just do the same that was done to me to others, have sex with virgins take there souls, but i fight hard and refuse that why Im here today on this page. One question how do u break this tide, and can i become an virgin again?

    • Dear Nathan,

      Thank you so much for writing and for your courage in reaching out and admitting your sin.

      First of all, I want you to know that God loves you no matter what you have done. He hates sin but He loves you!

      I can tell from your post that you are very sorry for what you have done. God sees your heart and wants to forgive you. That is the reason He sent Jesus Christ to die for us—to pay the price for our sins. When a person is sorry for his sin, God will never turn him away.

      So let’s go to God now and ask Him for forgiveness. I will lead you in a simple prayer to ask God’s forgiveness and to receive Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord.

      Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I admit that I have sinned by having sex outside of marriage. I am so very sorry and ask You to forgive me. I receive Your forgiveness and ask You, Jesus, to come into my life. I receive You as my Savior and my Lord. Take away this pain, Jesus. Make me what You created me to be. And use me to warn other young people that sin always brings pain but that following You, Jesus, always brings life. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

      If you prayed this prayer, Nathan, you are now born again and a child of God. I would suggest that you go to the girl involved and ask her forgiveness, too. Then ask God what to do about your relationship with her.

      You have made a very wise choice not to have sex again until you get married. God’s commandments are not to keep us from having fun but to protect us.

      To answer your question, you can break this evil tide only by the power of Jesus. If you sincerely prayed the prayer above and accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior, you now have His power in you to resist the devil. Whenever you are tempted, or whenever you hear the devil’s voice telling you to do something evil, just call out the Name of Jesus. Just say “JESUS, help me!” and He will.

      Also, while you cannot become a virgin again physically, you can become a virgin spiritually by obeying God’s commandment not to have sex until you are married. If you have confessed your sin to Jesus, you are now clean and forgiven. He says this in the Bible, in 1 John 1: 9: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” So, if you have confessed your sin to God, He will keep His promise to forgive you and to cleanse you.

      Please let me know if you have prayed the prayer to receive Jesus as your Savior and Lord. Get yourself a Bible and start reading it every day. Start in the Gospel of John, in the second half of the Bible. Also, pray every day. Prayer is just talking to Jesus as you would talk to your best friend because Jesus is your Best Friend. 🙂

      Yes, you are right that young people need to be taught these things. Maybe God will use you to teach them what you have learned the hard way. One wonderful thing about God is that He takes our mess and turns it into our message! 🙂

      I look forward to hearing from you, Nathan. Meanwhile, I am praying for you.


      Dr. MaryAnn

    • Nathan, thank you so much for your valued post. Yes, I know how to help people in the soul restoration process. I am a Certified Life Coach and have been trained in Healing and Deliverance Ministry. If you would like more information about coaching, please go to this link: https://maryanndiorio.com/writing-services/life-coaching-2

      Otherwise, I would simply suggest that you read my future posts on this topic. I think you will gather sufficient information to meet your needs.

      If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to ask.

      Many blessings to you!

      Dr. MaryAnn

  5. My wife had an affair. She slept with her old boyfriend. I had a would tie for her infidelity i had no knowledge of. I found weird thoughts of lust and had issues and could not understand why? She ended up divorcing me and i had a real issue getting over the thoughts of her in sex acts with the other guy. I asked God to take away the would tie with my former wife and i was instantly healed from the pain and thoughts of sex with her and her boyfriend haunting me. If you are not the one cheating and you don’t break the soul ties to a cheating spouse you can still suffer consequences you didn’t cause.

  6. I do agree that Jesus can break the bonds of anything.

    However, I truly think this is wrong. What if a person was molested for years and was forced by him to have sex with others as a child and teenager and had no control over that? I think a person has to mean something to you for there to be a tie.

    • Thank you for your valued comment, Melinda. The kind of soul tie to which I refer is not a natural relationship soul tie but a spiritual soul tie. In other words, it has more to do with the demonic spirits involved in the relationship than in the people involved. When a child is molested, demonic spirits, such as fear, can take hold of a child’s soul and cause a spiritual tie to the person who molested the child. But yes, you are right that Jesus can break any and every unhealthful bond.

      I would refer you to this resource for more information: http://www.greatbiblestudy.com/soulties.php. God bless you!

  7. I am so grateful for your email information that you have really taught me about how the bastard children and unfaithful parents who produces and how God himself talks about them.
    I would like to be receiving different lessons from you if you don’t mind.
    kind regards
    Charles k

  8. I really have so much I want to ask you or say but I guess what I want to ask you first is you say that in God’s eyes you are married if you have had intercourse – does that mean that if me and my boyfriend decide we want to be together for the rest of our lives and proceed to have sex before moving into together ( because of financial situations and living situations) but before God feel obligated from there on to proceed to move in together and get a marriage licenses that is ok…or are we still fornicating?

    • Thank you for writing, Chris. You ask a very good question. The answer is that an unmarried person is fornicating if he or she has sex outside of marriage. If one of the partners is married, then that partner is committing adultery.

      When I wrote that, in God’s eyes, a man and woman are “married” if they have had intercourse, I did not mean that they are “lawfully” married before God. What I meant is that they have formed an illicit spiritual and physical union that God does not approve of because it was not established according to His design for marriage. His design for marriage is that one man marry one woman and they remain committed to each other alone sexually, and in every other way, until one of them dies.

      Having sex outside of marriage forms a “union” between a man and a woman, but it is an evil union, not a righteous one. God never approves of sexual intercourse outside of marriage.

      Many couples today cite financial reasons as reasons for living together. This is a lie of the devil and sounds good but is a trap. I would recommend that you and your boyfriend get married lawfully in front of a pastor who honors God’s Word before you begin living together. Otherwise, God cannot bless your disobedience. If you truly love each other, you will be willing to commit to each other for life in a lawful marriage relationship.

      If you want to live the truly good life, always do things God’s way.

      • Thank you so much for your response – I’ve had some good Christian people say that the marriage license is just a paper it’s the covenant in your heart that matters as long as we realize that once we have had sex and commited before God in our hearts and stay committed we’re not fornicating – but it seems to me that following this advice is not good – wish I could email you personally

        • Hello, Chris,

          You are right in believing that the advice you have been given by some Christians is contrary to God’s Word.

          God does not consider “living together” as marriage. Read John 4: 17. Jesus is talking to the woman at the well who is living with a man, and she says to Jesus, “I have no husband.” Jesus responds, “You are right.” So, a man and a woman who are not married but living together in a sexual relationship are not married in God’s eyes.

  9. And after the soul tie is broken the other person’s soul fragment has to be sent back to its owner, and the demons cast out, it doesn’t happen automatically once the soul tie is broken. Speaking from my own experience…

      • Thank you for reaching out, Lola, with such an excellent question. To break a soul tie, you go to Jesus Christ and invite Him into your life to be Your Savior and Lord. This is the first step. After you invite Him into your life, You will receive His power and grace to break the soul tie. Simply renounce every negative soul tie in the Name of Jesus and ask the Lord to restore your soul. He promises to do this in Psalm 23:3. I hope this answers your question. If not, please let me know. Many blessings to you!