Wednesday, Jul 15, 2015

Are You Allowing Yourself to Get Upset?

Setting Boundaries for What You Will Allow in Your Life

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

No one can upset you without your permission!

Let those words sink in. No one–that means, NO ONE, can upset you unless you allow that person to upset you.

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When you think about it, this is wonderful news. It means that you have the ability and the power of choice to assume responsibility for your emotions. It also means that no matter how others treat you, you can remain calm, secure, and unshaken on the inside.

Whenever you allow someone to upset you, you are giving that person control over you. You are allowing that person to affect not only your emotions but also your entire life.  You are, in essence, allowing another person to rob you of your freedom and your peace.

Think about it.

Let’s say your husband forgets your anniversary. Instead of allowing that fact to upset you, turn the situation around and surprise him by cooking his favorite meal. This will defuse any temptation on your part to be upset, and it will remind you that that wonderful man you married is human, just like you, and sometimes forgets things.

My granddaughter recently got upset when her younger sister took from her a toy she wanted to play with. My older granddaughter came to me complaining.  “Nonna, she makes me so mad!” 

I smiled and replied, “Sweetheart, no one can make you angry without your permission.”

Her brows furrowed as her eyes questioned my sanity. “That’s not true, Nonna! I’m mad!”

“Of course, you’re mad, but you don’t have to be. You are the one allowing yourself to be mad.” 

After a few moments of conversation, she left feeling empowered that she could set boundaries as to what she would allow and not allow in her  life.

You can set the same boundaries. You can determine how you will respond to the actions of others.

You can refuse to allow anyone to upset you.

Now, that is freedom! 🙂 And that is peace!


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2 thoughts on “Are You Allowing Yourself to Get Upset?

  1. Dearest MaryAnn,
    This came at a timely moment for me, and yes, I do agree that we have freedom and control over our emotions, upsets, anger and serenity. We choose our own battles and either let them control our emotions or let God replenish us with His Wisdom.

    Thank you,