Tips for Taking Control of Your Life

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

 ”It’s all your fault!” How often have I heard my grandchildren utter those words to one another! Too many times to count. Yet, while such an accusation may be expected among children, I hear it among too many adults as well. 

So, what is the Blame Game?

The blame game is the act of refusing to take responsibility for one’s own actions and the attempt to place responsibility for one’s actions on someone else.

Let’s take a look at some players of the blame game. You will hear them say things like this:

“The devil made me do it.”

“It’s all my mother’s fault.”

“If only my father had not been an alcoholic, I wouldn’t be one either.”

“If I had not grown up in a dysfunctional family, my life wouldn’t be such a mess.”

“If only I didn’t like potato chips so much, I wouldn’t be overweight.”

All of these statements reveal a failure on the part of those who say such things to take responsibility for their lives.

You see, the truth is this: We alone are responsible for our choices and our actions. While we are not responsible for the choices and actions of those who have harmed us in any way, we ARE responsible for how we respond to the choices and actions of those who have harmed us.

Like many of you, I grew up in what would be described as a dysfunctional home. In fact, I think every home is dysfunctional in some way. As I approached my twenties, I stood in front of the mirror one day and said, “Girl, your past can either break you or make you. Which is it going to be?” Right then and there, I decided and declared aloud that my past was going to make me.


Because God has given you a free will, you can move from blaming others for your choices and actions to taming your choices and actions. How?  By taking responsibility for your choices and actions. By placing them under your control and, in turn, under the control of the Holy Spirit.

It is not what happens to us that matters.
What matters is how we respond to what happens to us.

And God has given you the power to make that right choice.

So use your power to choose. And use it wisely. Don’t let the past dictate your future. Don’t blame others for where you are today. Choose to take responsibility for your choices and your actions.

And remember this: It is not what happens to you that matters; what matters is how you respond to what happens to you. In other words, whether you have had an ideal childhood or you have come from the worst home situation possible doesn’t matter. What matters is that you have the God-given power to make wise choices to create a fulfilling future. Use that power from now on!

Before you leave, I encourage you to leave a comment in the box below and to listen to my 3-minute podcast, Are You Playing the Blame Game?,  from my popular podcast series titled A Moment with MaryAnn:


For more of my podcasts check out the following:

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Now, it’s YOUR turn:  What are some steps you’ve taken to eliminate blame from your life? Please leave your response in the Comment Box below. Thank you!

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