Monday, Jun 18, 2018


“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

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Shame is to the heart as chains are to the body. 

Shame keeps us bound. It keeps us a prisoner of the lies that caused our shame.

Most, if not all, of us have experienced shame in one way or another.

I come from a very poor family of eight children. Were it not for the generosity of the nuns at the Catholic school I attended, we would have often gone to bed hungry. Yet, as I carried home on the schoolbus the large shopping bag filled with the nuns’ pungent egg salad sandwiches left over from their lunch, I felt shame. Shame because the other kids on the bus not only knew what I was carrying, but also why. Shame because I believed the lie that poor people were inferior. 

What is shame and where does it come from?

Shame is the lie that says you’re not good enough. While guilt says I MADE a mistake, shame says I AM a mistake.  

Shame comes from negative words spoken to us as a children—words that wounded our hearts. 

  • “You’ll never amount to anything.” 
  • “You’re so clumsy!”
  • “You’re stupid.”
  • “You’re fat.”
  • “You’re poor.”
  • “No one will ever love you.”
  • “I wish I never had you!”
  • “You were an accident.”
  • “You’re ugly.”
  • ‘You’re (fill in the blank).”

Shame comes from experiences that caused us to believe we fell short of the expected mark.

Shame comes straight from the pit of hell.

Has your life been filled with shame?  If so, read these words the Lord wrote just for you: “Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance” (Isaiah 61: 7).

My Prayer for You Today: “May God break the chains of shame off your life. May He take the shame of your life and turn it into the strength of your life.”

Now, it’s YOUR turn: How have you dealt with shame in your life? Please leave your valued comment in the box below.


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  1. Dear MaryAnne;
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful story; sometimes the world can be cruel, and you had your share of shame can cruelty; I think we have all experienced shame in certain instances, and yes, it’s a very difficult thing to deal with.
    Thank you so very much for writing this.


  2. Hi MaryAnn I guess this was why I identified with your Italian Chronicles series so much. I also grew up in a very poor family of 7 children, and for years I felt shame from my father’s alcoholism until I finally realized it had nothing to do with my choices but his, and with God saving me, my life didn’t have to be anything like the choices he made! It was up to be to follow God’s Spirit and His choices to live a life pleasing to Him. Thanks you for your writing!

  3. Thanks for being so transparent, Dr. M. Shame is definitely a destroyer. It’s been a long haul in breaking its power in my life, and I still have to maintain daily. Reprogramming through meditation on the Word has been my only saving grace.

    • Dear Tracey, you are absolutely right! My saving grace as well has been continual meditation on and confession of God’s Word–renewing my mind by aligning my thinking with God’s thinking. This is the only way to overcome the lies of the enemy.

      Thank you so much for commenting. Blessings to you!