ARE YOU PLAYING THE BLAME GAME?

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by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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”It’s all your fault!” How often have I heard my grandchildren utter those words to one another! Too many times to count. Yet, while such an accusation may be expected among children, I hear it among too many adults as well. 

So, what is the Blame Game?

The blame game is the act of refusing to take responsibility for one’s own actions and the attempt to place responsibility for one’s actions on someone else.

Let’s take a look at some players of the blame game. You will hear them say things like this:

“The devil made me do it.”

“It’s all my mother’s fault.”

“If only my father had not been an alcoholic, I wouldn’t be one either.”

“If I had not grown up in a dysfunctional family, my life wouldn’t be such a mess.”

“If only I didn’t like potato chips so much, I wouldn’t be overweight.”

All of these statements reveal a failure on the part of those who say such things to take responsibility for their lives.

You see, the truth is this: We alone are responsible for our choices and our actions. While we are not responsible for the choices and actions of those who have harmed us in any way, we ARE responsible for how we respond to the choices and actions of those who have harmed us.

Like many of you, I grew up in what would be described as a dysfunctional home. In fact, I think every home is dysfunctional in some way. As I approached my twenties, I stood in front of the mirror one day and said, “Girl, your past can either break you or make you. Which is it going to be?” Right then and there, I decided and declared aloud that my past was going to make me.

From BLAMER to TAMER

Because God has given you a free will, you can move from blaming others for your choices and actions to taming your choices and actions. How?  By taking responsibility for your choices and actions. By placing them under your control and, in turn, under the control of the Holy Spirit.

It is not what happens to us that matters.
What matters is how we respond to what happens to us.

And God has given you the power to make that right choice.

So use your power to choose. And use it wisely. Don’t let the past dictate your future. Don’t blame others for where you are today. Choose to take responsibility for your choices and your actions.

And remember this: It is not what happens to you that matters; what matters is how you respond to what happens to you. In other words, whether you have had an ideal childhood or you have come from the worst home situation possible doesn’t matter. What matters is that you have the God-given power to make wise choices to create a fulfilling future. Use that power from now on!

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Now, it’s YOUR turn:  What are some steps you’ve taken to eliminate blame from your life? Please leave your response in the Comment Box below. Thank you!

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THE SOUL ROOTS OF SICKNESS – Part One

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

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Are you sick in your body? The real problem may be in your soul.

Much, if not most, physical illness has its roots in a wounded soul. The condition of the soul affects the condition of the body.

The following Bible verse backs up this truth: “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers (3 John 2, NKJV, underlining mine).”  We are in health to the degree that our soul is in health.

Well, what if our soul is not in health? What if our soul has been deeply wounded through trauma, rejection, Satanic ritual abuse (SRA), child abuse (sexual or otherwise), or other demonic activity in our lives? What can we do if this is the case?

In this multi-part series of blog posts, we will explore the deleterious effects of a wounded soul and what to do about them. We will learn that Jesus meant what He said when He told us in Psalm 23 that He “restores our soul.”

First of all, let’s define a soul wound. A soul wound is a wound in the soul that has not been confronted and resolved.

Many times we are not even aware of soul wounds because they often occur in utero, in infancy, or in early childhood. Satan uses these times of intensified vulnerability to wreak his havoc on a child’s soul.

Sadly, most parents—even Christian parents—are unaware of their child’s spiritual vulnerability to Satanic attack. Consequently, they do not know to protect their children from these attacks.  As a result, Satan establishes strongholds in the child’s life that can last a lifetime if not recognized and dealt with.

“A soul wound is a wound in the soul that has not been confronted and resolved.” 

Signs of Soul Wounds

What are some signs that our soul has been wounded? 

__Lack of joy. Scripture tells us that “the joy of the Lord is our strength” (Nehemiah 8: 10). Joy and happiness are not the same thing. We can be unhappy about a situation but still be joyful in the midst of it. If our joy has been depleted, we may be suffering from a soul wound. 

__Offense. Am I easily offended? Do I feel that people are out to get me? 

__Self-Condemnation. Am I frequently down on myself? Angry at myself for making a wrong decision or for messing up? Unable to forgive myself for something I said, did, or didn’t do?

__Defensiveness. Do I feel the need to defend myself? To prove that I am right? That I am worth something?

__Shame. Am I carrying around a hidden secret that I can’t share with anyone because I am afraid I would be rejected if I did?  

__Deep sadness / Depression. Do I frequently feel hopeless? Does the future look bleak? Have I lost the will to live?  

These are just a few signs of possible soul wounds. In future posts, we will look more closely at how soul wounds develop, how they cause sickness, how they affect our lives and our relationships, and what to do to be healed of them.

My Prayer for Us Today: “Lord, please reveal to us the wounds of our soul so that we may come to You for healing and restoration. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Have you suffered soul wounds? If so, how have you dealt with themPlease leave your valued comment in the box below. 

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HOW TO RECOGNIZE PRIDE IN YOUR LIFE

Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

“Matters of the Heart” is a weekly blog that deals with the deepest issues of the human heart, the issues we all face but sometimes don’t want to talk about. The heart is the programming center of our lives. What is programmed into our heart will affect every area of our lives. Learn how to examine your heart and how to program your heart for success.

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PRIDE. How do we know if we’re guilty of it. By its very nature, pride does not see itself. So, let’s ask ourselves these seven questions to determine if there is pride in our lives. And if there is, let’s repent and drive it out in the Name of Jesus:

1–Is there strife in my life? “Where there is strife, there is pride” (Proverbs 13: 10a). Strife is always the fruit of pride. Indeed, there can be no strife unless pride enters first. As we eliminate pride from our lives, we will eliminate strife as well. 

2–Is there fear or worry in my life? Fear and worry reveal my toxic reliance on myself instead of on God. Fear and worry reveal that I want control because I think I can handle things better than God. This is pride. 

3–Do I worry about what people think of me? The Bible says that people-pleasers cannot serve God because they are more concerned about what others think of them than about what God thinks of them: “If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant” (Galatians 1: 10). Whenever we elevate man above God, we are guilty of pride.

4–Do I have an “entitlement mentality”? Do I think that the world owes me something? Do I think I deserve to have this or that? The truth is we deserve nothing but Hell were it not for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. An entitlement mentality is a clear sign of pride.  

5–Do I think I”m better than someone else? Pride exalts itself and diminishes others. The Bible says this: “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves” (Philippians 2: 3).

6–Am I a hypocrite? In other words, do I act one way at home and another way in public? “But they do all their deeds to be noticed by men….” (Matthew 23: 5). This, again is pride.

7–Do I resist submitting to God-given authority? Do I buck my husband, my boss, my pastor, my parents? Do I refuse to submit to them or do I give them a hard time? Let’s remember this word of the Lord: “Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” (1 Samuel 15: 23).

Every day I must examine myself for signs of pride. It is an insidious sin and the one that got Adam and Eve expelled from the Garden of Eden. They questioned God’s integrity, deeming that they knew better than God. To question God’s integrity is pride–plain and simple.

My Prayer for Us Today: “May God reveal to us any areas of pride in our lives, and may He give us the grace to renounce it once and for all.”

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Do you struggle with pride? If so, how do you overcome it? Please leave your valued comment in the box below. 

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Learn how Don Franco overcame pride in The Italian Chronicles Trilogy.

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If you found this post helpful, please forward it to a friend. Thank you! You may also be interested in reading the following popular posts:

“Are Demons Destroying Your Destiny?”

“How to Live in a World Gone Crazy”

“How to Get Along with Everyone”

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For additional encouragement, check out my podcasts at the following links:

A Moment with MaryAnn – Podcasts on Living the Good Life

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Copyright 2018 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be published or printed in any form whatsoever without the written permission of Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. You may contact her at info@maryanndiorio.com to request permission.

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