The Compromising Heart

Why Compromise Will Hurt Your Heart

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

Compromise. We normally think of it as a good thing. For example, when facing a decision that involves both spouses in a marriage, we consider how that decision will affect each person in the relationship. We work toward a “win-win” situation. We compromise.

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When struggling to find a solution for a workplace conflict, we strive to find one that benefits all parties involved. We discuss, weigh the pros and cons, and determine what is best for the group as a whole. We compromise.

When our child’s bedtime is 8:00 but he wants to stay up until 9:00, we allow him to stay up until 8:30pm. To show our goodwill as a parent, we compromise.

But compromise can be a liability when it comes to deciding between right and wrong. For instance, you may be tempted to “borrow” a few paper clips from work for your personal use at home.  You do so, compromising your moral integrity while rationalizing that it’s only a few paperclips. Your company won’t cave financially if you take them.

But you will cave spiritually.

Why? Because you compromised. And your heart knows it!

You see, God made us with an inner knowing regarding what is right and what is wrong.  This knowing is sometimes called natural law.

Several years ago, I heard a missionary give a talk about the remote tribe to which God sent her to preach the Gospel. The tribe had never heard of Jesus Christ. They had never heard of the Bible. They had never heard of the Ten Commandments. Yet, when the missionary asked them to tell her about their culture, they said things like the following:  We do not steal from one another. We do not lie to one another. We do not kill one another.

How did this remote tribe of people know that such actions were wrong? Simple. The law of God was written on their hearts.

As much as we may try to deny it, in the depths of our hearts we know what is right and what is wrong. We know it is wrong to steal. We know it is wrong to lie. We know it is wrong to murder.

You may say, “I don’t steal; I don’t lie; I don’t murder.”  But do you tell “a little white lie”?  Do you take a few paper clips from work because, after all, it won’t make a difference?  Do you gossip about your neighbor? Gossip is a form of murder, you know.

So, why do we compromise? I think there is one main reason: the fear of man. We are afraid to stand up for what is right because we are afraid of what others may think.  We are more afraid of what man thinks than of what God thinks.

Brothers and sisters, this should not be!

I issue you a loving challenge today:  Be courageous in the face of evil.  Do not give in to the temptation to save your own skin.  Remember that you are a follower of Christ.  And a follower of Christ, if need be, will follow Him into suffering and persecution in order to remain faithful to Him.

If you have been compromising, repent.  Then determine in your heart that you will never compromise again. 

Making this decision will be very good for your heart!


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