Interview with Dr. Charity Kayembe

Hearing God through Your Dreams

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Today, I am deeply honored and delighted to introduce an amazing young woman and a dear friend and sister in Christ, Dr. Charity Kayembe. Dr. Charity is the author of the newly released book titled Hearing God through Your Dreams. Having had the privilege of serving as one of the editors for this book and having read it a second time, I plan to read it again and again and to keep it at hand as a simple and practical manual for accurate dream interpretation. I am so excited to have Dr. Charity as our guest today. Welcome, Dr. Charity, to Matters of the Heart. It is great to have you with us today! 🙂

CHARITY:
It’s wonderful to be here, MaryAnn! Thank you so much for having me. 🙂

MARYANN:
Charity, dreaming is certainly a “matter of the heart,” so I am especially delighted to have you with us today on Matters of the Heart. 🙂 Please tell us a little about yourself and how you got started in dream interpretation.

CHARITY:
I’ve worked with my parents, Mark and Patti Virkler, in ministry for the past 20 years. Currently, I’m one of the professors of graduate students at Christian Leadership University. I enjoy the company of heaven and writing about my adventures living into the Spirit through seeing visions by day and by night, through my dreams.

My Dad is the one who first introduced me to dream interpretation when I was just a young girl. He was exploring dreams and visions in the Bible and how God communicated through them. Knowing the Lord is the same yesterday, today and forever, Dad understood that since God revealed Himself through dreams in Scripture, then He was still doing that for us in our own lives now. After all, the Bible is meant to be lived!

So our whole family began sharing dreams together around the breakfast table each morning as I was growing up. We discovered how to receive God’s counsel, encouragement and protection through our visions of the night.

After decades of experience, we confidently understand how dreams are one of Heaven’s preferred methods of communication, and we’ve learned to live into the truth of God’s nightly messages to us and upon awakening, act on the revelation and make our dreams come true. physical-body

MARYANN:
Why do you think our dreams are so important, and why should we honor them and pay close attention to them?

CHARITY:
Because in Numbers 12:6 God promised He would speak to us in dreams and reveal Himself to us in visions. The Bible says that God speaks over and over again, but man doesn’t notice. In a dream, in a vision of the night when deep sleep falls on men and they slumber in their beds He opens our ears, seals our instruction, turns us from wrongdoing and enlightens us with the light of life – Job 33:14-18,29-30.

In fact, Song of Solomon 5:2 tells us that when we sleep our heart is awake to commune with our Beloved! So dreams are God’s Contingency Plan ensuring He would always have a way to connect with us.

MARYANN:
So, are you suggesting there is a Scriptural foundation for dream work?

CHARITY:
Absolutely! Sometimes we don’t realize it, but a lot of very significant scriptural events actually happened while people were asleep, in their dreams. For example, Solomon received his gift of wisdom in a dream (1 Kings 3:5-15), the Abrahamic covenant was established in a dream (Gen. 15:12-18), Jacob received his lucrative business strategy for the striped and specked sheep in a dream (Gen. 31:10-12).

Of course we know Joseph and Daniel were famous for interpreting dreams, and they were actually promoted to powerful second-in-command political positions because of their ability to understand Heaven’s messages through dreams.

And lest we think God communicating through dreams was something confined to the Old Testament, we need look no further than the Gospel of Matthew. In just the first two of the New Testament alone, we see five (!) dreams from God directing and instructing people. Indeed, “God says, ‘In the last days I will pour out My Spirit…your young men will see visions and old men will dream dreams’” (Acts 2:17).

If we add up all the scriptures about dream and vision, all the interpretations of those dreams, and all the actions that resulted from obedience to the messages in those dreams, we come up with one-third of the Bible. That’s the equivalent of the New Testament! So obviously dreams are incredibly important to God. As such, they are incredibly important to us as well.

MARYANN:
We often think of these biblical heroes like Joseph and Daniel and assume they had the gift of dream interpretation. What is your opinion?

CHARITY:
Dream interpretation is not a gift bestowed on a few favored individuals. Rather, dream interpretation is a skill anyone can learn. It’s a language that anyone can master and become fluent in. If you speak to me in French and I understand you, you wouldn’t say I have the gift of French! No, I studied and learned it through time and practice. And so it is with the picture language of dreams. We can become fluent in the language God speaks at night.

MARYANN:
Are all dreams from God? If not, how can one tell which ones are and which ones are not?

CHARITY:
I believe the vast majority of dreams are from God. I would consider every single dream I have to be from God, unless He tells me otherwise. Every dream recorded in the Bible was from the Lord. God never once said, “It’s just a dream; it’s not real.” God never once said, “That’s just pizza.” No, He was meeting with people and giving them counsel and wisdom and blessing and protection – even through the “crazy” dreams!

For example, look at Gideon – a loaf of bread wipes out an army? That seems like a pretty weird dream to me. Or Joseph in Genesis, he dreams of stars in the sky bowing down to him. Now that’s a crazy dream! But even though these dreams weren’t literal but instead were full of symbolism, there was still a message from God hidden in the pictures. Once the dreams were decoded and decrypted, the figurative imagery was translated and the message God was speaking became clear. These dreamers received His heart and revelation even through the strange or seemingly silly dreams.

God is always speaking. The only question is, “Are we listening?”

MARYANN:
In your outstanding book, you offer specific guidelines for interpreting one’s dreams. Please give us the steps you use to discover the meaning of a dream.

CHARITY:
There are three key questions to ask about every dream we have: What is the setting? What is the key action? And what is the key emotion?

I actually have a special method I use for organizing my dream work, and I encourage you to use the same technique. It is very useful in helping us zero in on the key elements without getting distracted by all the details. Once these core aspects are clear, the meaning and interpretation of the dream will shift into focus.

We call this daisy-chain format the DAESI Dream Work Method and we simply record the Dream, Action, Emotion, Setting, and Interpretation. It looks like this.

Dream– Summary (Reader’s Digest version) of the dream.

Action– In the dream, what was I doing? (Running from something? Ministering? Fighting?) That is the key action.

Emotion – In the dream, how was I feeling? (Excited? Disappointed? Loved?) That is the key emotion.

Setting – In waking life, what issues is my heart processing? (What did I do that day? What was I thinking about when I went to bed and praying for as I fell asleep?) That is the setting.

Interpretation – We match up the dream’s action and emotion with similar actions and emotions in our waking life which show us what area of our life the dream is speaking to, and we journal out God’s message to us through the dream.

MARYANN:
What about dream symbol dictionaries?

CHARITY:
You know, MaryAnn, everyone I talk with is even more confused about their dream after reading those dictionaries! Because symbols are personal to the dreamer. We all have unique histories, different experiences and individual perceptions, so we associate entirely different meanings to the same symbol.

If we want to get the right answer we must be asking the right question. So we never ask “What does this symbol mean?” We only ask “What does this symbol mean to the dreamer?”

This is why you, the dreamer, are the very best person to understand your dreams. You know the setting from your waking world better than anyone, and you know what the symbols mean to you personally, which is why YOU are absolutely the most qualified interpretation expert of your dreams.

MARYANN:
You explain in your book that the dreamer is the ultimate arbiter of the meaning of the dream. In other words, the symbolism must bear witness with the dreamer’s spirit. Would you please expound on this a bit?

CHARITY:
Absolutely. As I mentioned, symbols are personal to the dreamer so for example, I may dream of a lake. That, to me, would represent peace and relaxation and God’s creation. However, if my grandmother dreamt of the exact same lake, it would speak to fear because she almost drowned in a lake when she was a little girl.

So that is why we never say symbols are universal or one-size-fits-all. Dream symbol dictionaries don’t take into account your personal associations and preferences and perspectives. So you’re right, the understanding of the symbolism and thus the overall message of the dream must resonate in the dreamer’s heart. It should “click” and feel right to the dreamer – then you know you have the right interpretation.

MARYANN:
What should one do if she knows she has had a dream but cannot remember it?

CHARITY:
That’s a great question. Even though science has proven that we all dream every night, some of us don’t often remember those dreams. There are several things we can do to remedy this. For example, we want to make sure we get enough sleep each night. Studies have shown eight hours of sleep is not only optimal for physical health but also optimal for dream work as well.

Another easy, yet surprisingly helpful way to remember your dreams is to put a pen and journal beside your bed so that you can record your dream immediately upon awakening. Just that simple act is a demonstration of your expectancy for God to meet you in your dreams, and it’s a sign to your heart to wake you up right after you’ve had the dream so you can record and interpret it.

MARYANN:
What advice would you give to someone who has never taken his dreams seriously but now wants to? Where should such a person start?

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Well, if we have disdained dreams and not honored them in the past, we would first want to repent. That just means we change our mind and now we start thinking the way God is thinking, and living into His perspective and the mind of Christ. Now that we understand how He speaks through dreams and how He promised to meet us in them, we repent for not listening to Him and purpose by His grace to start paying attention and living into our dreams and visions of the night.

We would also want to pray before going to sleep and ask for revelation. We know James 4:2 tells us that we have not because we ask not, so we will ask the Lord to help us remember our dreams and translate the messages He has for us in them.

Lastly, we should do this in faith, because we know that according to our faith it is done unto us (Matthew 9:29). So we want to want to go to sleep expectantly believing that we are going to meet with Jesus and receive His wisdom and heavenly downloads through our dreams. He is the same yesterday, today and forever, and everything God did through dreams in Scripture He is still doing for us today!

MARYANN:
Would you be willing to share a dream of yours that was pivotal in guiding you in a major decision?

CHARITY:
I’d be happy to! You know, setting is everything when it comes to dream work and we really don’t know anything about the dream until we know the setting (that is, what is happening in the life of the dreamer right before she has the dream). So I’ll start by sharing the setting of my waking world:

One thing I never used to be a big fan of was responsibility. I was happy to be a follower, as there seemed to be much less pressure in that position. God turned all this around for me one night through a dream when He explained that I can be a follower and a leader at the same time.

He showed me how He is the leader and I am always following Him, and then if anyone else wants to follow behind us, great. There’s no pressure on me, though, because even if it may seem like I am leading, I’m really not. People just might not see Who it is I am following.

DREAM: I was a firefighter living at a firehouse.

ACTION: Our job was to put out fires; we were the first responders who saved lives.

EMOTION: Huge sense of responsibility, but it did not weigh on me because I knew I was in the safest place.

INTERPRETATION: The safest place is the place of most responsibility. Firefighters have tremendous responsibility, but you do not often hear of their fire stations burning down. They have everything they need to fight the fires. Likewise, I have been equipped for every good work through Christ so I can be confident in any situation (see Heb. 13:20-21).

God said, “So Char Bear, about that mantle of responsibility…here’s the deal: It’s not yours to wear because it is too big and heavy for your little girly shoulders. It’s for Me. The mantle hangs perfectly on My shoulders. It’s MY size. Leadership, responsibility—they’re My mantles, My cloaks, My armor, Mine to wear. You don’t have to. You just have to find yourself hidden in Me. And you can be littler, and you can be the follower (which is all I’ve ever asked you to be—a follower of Jesus).

 “Your life is hidden in Mine. So you are the littler one inside of Me, the Big One. And it’s Me who is wearing the big cloak and mantle, and you’re being covered by it because you are inside of Me. But you are not feeling the pressure or stress or weight of that mantle because you’re hidden inside of Me.

 “I got you. I got this. There’s no pressure on you, no stress. I am the Mantle Holder, the Responsibility Carrier, the Leadership Wearer…”

This ended up being a slightly prophetic dream that prepared me for what was going to happen the very next day. I awoke, went to work, and was offered a new job position, which, as you can imagine, involved a great deal more responsibility.

Normally I would have been hesitant, but because of the message God gave me through the dream the night before I accepted the promotion and found once again that the safest place to be is in the center of God’s will. It just may also happen to be the place of greatest responsibility.

MARYANN:
How can readers learn more about your ministry and stay connected with you?

CHARITY:
Feel free to visit me on my website GloryWaves.org. You’re welcome to watch the free video teachings, explore my articles on the sacred supernatural, or bookcoverlargesubscribe to my blog. I do travel and teach dream interpretation workshops around the world, so check out my itinerary to see if I’ll be ministering at a church near you. I would love to meet you in person!

MARYANN:
Charity, it has been a great joy and a great blessing to have you with us today. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your expertise on dream interpretation.

CHARITY:
It was my pleasure, MaryAnn! I had a wonderful time. Thank you so much for having me!

MARYANN:
Thanks to all of you who participated in our interview. I strongly encourage you to get yourself a copy of Dr. Charity’s book. And not only for yourself, but for your family and friends. It is a book that will radically impact your life for good and deepen your intimacy with Holy Spirit. Not to mention it would make a wonderful Christmas gift!

You can purchase Hearing God through Your Dreams on the author’s site here or on Amazon here.

Also, Dr. Charity and her father, Dr. Mark Virkler, co-author of Hearing God through Your Dreams, recently appeared on the Sid Roth program, It’s Supernatural. You can view their inspiring and informative interview here.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Has God spoken to you in dreams? Have you learned something new and life-changing from this blog post? Please leave a comment in the box below.

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We’ve all encountered them. Difficult people who could, if we let them, make our lives miserable. Perhaps you know one. Perhaps you work with one. Perhaps you even live with one.

So, what can you do to keep difficult people from making your life difficult?

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Here are a three practices that have helped me deal with difficult people:

—Make sure that you are not a difficult person to live with or work with.  Far too often, we are quick to point the finger and to blame others for being difficult when we, ourselves, are blind to our own difficult ways. When dealing with a difficult person, the first step is to check our own hearts. Jesus said this in Matthew 7: 5: “Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” Make sure you don’t have a log in your own eye when dealing with a difficult perosn.

Remember that hurting people hurt people. Difficult people have a history, usually a very painful or even traumatic one. While this is no excuse for bad behavior, it is a reason for it. And knowing that there is a reason behind all bad behavior helps us to see the difficult person through the eyes of compassion. For example, what comes across as anger may, in reality, be fear at not measuring up to the job. What comes across as stubbornness may, in reality, be a feeling of insecurity or inferiority. Behind every behavior is a belief. When that belief does not align with truth, we often come face to face with a difficult person. Remember these words from Ephesians 4: 32 when dealing with a difficult person: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Apply the law of opposites. Return a kind word for a harsh one. Return a smile for a frown. Return understanding for criticism. Return encouragement for blame and accusation. In short, return good for evil. The Word of God says this in 1 Peter 3: 9: “Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.

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You will most likely agree that this past election cycle was unique in American history.  Both sides of the aisle hurled insult after insult, vicious ad hominem attacks that disparaged the very personhood of the participants. Instead of politely disagreeing with differing ideas, politicians and public alike displayed some of the worst behavior of which the human species is capable. 

At the root of it all was a spirit of offense.

The word offense derives from the Greek word scandalon which means a trap that holds bait to catch animals. Satan uses offense as bait to trap us into bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness in order to ruin our relationships, our churches, and our lives.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines offense as follows: Annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself.

Notice the focus on the self. Every time we take offense, we are focusing on ourselves, not on others. What concerns me most is that this spirit of offense is making major inroads into the Body of Christ. Dear brothers and sisters in Christ, this should not be!

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As one who has fallen into the trap of offense and repented, I can assure you of this: It is Satan’s goal to divide and conquer, and he seems to be doing a good job of it. He is working fiercely and furiously in every area of the lives of believers to separate and tear apart marriages, families, churches, friendships, and organizations. And his chief weapon is the spirit of offense.

How can we know if we are guilty of receiving a spirit of offense into our lives? Ask yourself these questions:

1-Do I want to fight back and get even when someone hurts me in any way? Do I put my boxing gloves on to protect myself? Do I want to punish those who insult me?

2-Do I criticize, complain, and condemn? Do I always look for what’s wrong with a person or place? Do I judge people and put them down? 

2-Am I full of self-pity? Do I feel sorry for myself for having been insulted? Do I want others to share in my misery?

3-Do I play the blame game? Do I point the finger instead of taking responsibility for my actions?

4-Do I readily assume the worst instead of the best? Am I quick to judge others and what others say without hearing the other side of the story?

5-Am I quick to get angry? Do I get impatient with others for their weaknesses? Their opinions? Their idiosyncrasies?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, it’s time to repent and consider these ways to keep the spirit of offense from trapping you:

1-Purpose in your heart that you will not allow anyone to offend you. While you may not see an offense coming, you can decide ahead of time that when it does come, you won’t take the bait.

2-Forgive the person who hurt you. Remember that only hurting people hurt people. 

3-Refuse to dwell on the hurt. Let it go and give it to God. He will take care of the situation far better than you can.

4-Return good for evil. Do something kind for the person who hurt you. 

5-Pray for the person who hurt you. Praying will not only bless the person who hurt you, but it will also help keep your heart right and clean and free of all harm from the enemy.

The spirit of offense is a very dangerous spirit. It opens the door to strife which, the Bible says, brings with it every evil thing (James 3: 16).  So, stay alert! The spirit of offense attacks without warning. Be on guard and, when it appears, resist it in the authority and power of the Name of Jesus.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: How do you deal with the spirit of offense when it assails you? Please leave a comment in the box below.

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Don’t Let Satan Play Your Pipes!

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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Did you know that before Lucifer fell, he was the angel in charge of worship in Heaven? Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about him in Ezekiel 28: 13-14:

You were in Eden, the garden of God;
Every precious stone was your covering:
The sardius, topaz, and diamond,
Beryl, onyx, and jasper,
Sapphire, turquoise, and emerald with gold.
The workmanship of your timbrels and pipes
Was prepared for you on the day you were created.
You were the anointed cherub who covers;

I established you;
You were on the holy mountain of God;
You walked back and forth in the midst of fiery stones.
You were blameless in your ways
from the day you were created
till wickedness was found in you.

(Ezekiel 28:13-15)

Part of Satan’s attire consisted of pipes that covered him. What were these pipes, and what do they have to do with us as followers of Yeshua?

Beautifully ornate prospect pipes from a tracker organPipes are wind instruments. They make a sound by using air to express the sound. In human beings, the closest thing to a pipe is the human voice. The human voice is like a pipe in that it requires air to express its sound. When we speak, we are expelling air to create the sound of our words.

When Satan rebelled against God and was thrown out of Heaven, his pipes became defiled. No longer could they be used to worship God and to proclaim His glory. So, God replaced the pipes of Satan with the pipes, or voices, of His children. It is now given to us to proclaim God’s will and God’s kingdom with our pipes–our voices.

How do we do this? Through the words we speak.

Each of us was created with a sound. Our sound is our purpose. As followers of Yeshua, our purpose is to enforce the Kingdom of God and the will of God in the earth. We do this by declaring His Word over every situation in our lives. When we fail to declare God’s Word in the earth, we are failing in our purpose. Moreover, when we fail to declare God’s Word in the earth, we are, by default, aiding and abetting the enemy.

Scripture says this in Proverbs 18: 21: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” How we use our tongue–our words–will determine whether or not we bring life or death into our life and life or death into the earth. God’s will in the earth is life. Satan’s will in the earth is death.

We have a serious mandate from God to use our words to bring life, not death, in the earth. We will be judged for every “idle” word we speak. What is an idle word? It is any word that does not agree with God’s Word.

Years ago, during my Bible study time, I read the following words in Ephesians 4: 29: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Feeling confident I had not disobeyed that verse because I do not use profanity, I glossed over it and proceeded toward the next one when Holy Spirit stopped me.

“What is corrupt communication?” He asked.

“Lord,” I replied, “it’s speaking profanity. Using curse words.”

“Yes,” Holy Spirit said. “But it is far more than that.”

I was intrigued and listened for Holy Spirit’s explanation.

With much love, He said, “Corrupt communication is any word that does not agree with My Word.”

WOW! His explanation stopped me in my tracks and resulted in my spending the next half hour repenting of every word I had spoken that did not agree with God’s Word. Words of irritation. Words of frustration. Words of anger. Words of ingratitude. Words of unkindness. Words of complaining. Words of judgment. Words of defeat. Words of doubt. Words of fear. The list went on and on.

I learned a very important lesson that day. I learned that my words mattered.

And so do yours!shofar (horn) isolated on white. jewish traditional symbol

I believe we are too casual with our words. We do not understand that because we are made in the image of God, our words carry power. They are containers of either life or death, and which one they contain and pour out in the earth is up to us.

God created the entire universe with His words. We create our lives with our words. We affect the atmosphere with our words. We affect other people with our words.

Most of all, we promote–or demote–God’s will in the earth by our words that come forth through our pipes.

So, how are you using your pipes? Are you using them to proclaim God’s truth in the earth? Or are you using them to hinder His truth from coming to pass in the earth?

Be assured of this: Satan is after your pipes! He pressures you to use your words to undermine the purposes of God in the earth. Don’t allow him to do so!

Your voice is a human shofar. The shofar is a ram’s horn used by ancient Jews as an instrument of worship in religious ceremonies and as a call to battle in times of danger. Let the sound of your shofar fill the earth with the sounds of Heaven. When you sound your shofar–when you use your pipes–let the sound that comes forth from them be a sound that promotes God’s agenda, not Satan’s agenda. Let the sound that comes forth from your pipes be the sound of victory and not defeat.

The sound of life and not death.

NOW it’s your turn: How do you guard your heart by guarding your words?

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How to Think like a Winner

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A friend of mine walked into her living room and found her then three-year-old son intently staring out the window, deep in thought.

“Matthew,” she asked. “What are you thinking about?”

He turned to his mother, and, with a smile on his face, replied, “I’m thinking about what I’m thinking about.”

What a profound statement, out of the mouth of a babe!  This child had already grasped the first principle of being a winner: thinking about what he was thinking about.

Winners constantly monitor their thinking. Like all people, they are, at times, assailed with negative thoughts of doubt, discouragement, and defeat. But a winner will never allow those thoughts to control him. Instead, he will drive them away and replace them with winning thoughts.

Two Female Runners Finishing Race TogetherOver the years, I have studied winners and the way they think. Here are five observations I have made:

1. Winners control their thinking. They continually monitor their thoughts and immediately cast down any thoughts contrary to their dreams and their goals. They obey Romans 12: 2: “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” and Philippians 4: 8: “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

2. Winners EXPECT to win. In Scriptural terms, this is called FAITH. Winners continually think about what is possible, not about what is impossible. They refuse to let circumstances control them. Instead, they rise above the circumstances. They believe God’s promise to them in Philippians 4: 13: “For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”

3. Winners harness their language.  Winners understand the power of the words they speak. Scripture says this: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18: 21). Just as God created the entire universe through the words He spoke, so do we, who are in made in the image of God, create our own lives through the words we speak. Winners speak only what they want to see transpire in their lives.

4. Winners focus on the goal, not on the obstacles standing in the way of the goal. This does not mean that winners do not acknowledge the obstacles. They do. But they find ways to overcome the obstacles. They practice Proverbs 4: 25: Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you.”

5. Winners put their trust in God first and foremost and think in alignment with His Word. They make God and the things of God their top priority. They obey the Lord’s command found in Matthew 6: 33: “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: What have you discovered about the relationship between how you think and your level of success in life?

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