YOU CAN CONQUER WORRY!

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Today we’re going to be exploring a very common problem, one that affects a lot of people in varying degrees. In every case, however, this problem ends up in some way hurting them and those close to them. What am I referring to? I am referring to the problem of worry. 

Are you a worrier? Do you find yourself dreading the future, wondering what bad thing is going to happen next? Are you continually uptight about your finances, your health, your marriage, your children, your job?–to the point that you have a hard time relaxing and having fun? Well, if you answered yes to any of these questions, I have good news for you!

You can conquer worry!

We all know that with anything we wish to accomplish in life, we have to start with a desire to accomplish it. The same is true of conquering worry. You have to want to conquer worry before you can begin doing so. Now, you may be wondering: Who would not want to conquer worry? After all, worry robs us of peace and joy and keeps us in a constant state of inner turmoil.

You may be surprised to learn that there are many people who, deep down inside, do not really want to conquer worry. Strange as it may seem, worry has become for them a sort of status symbol, a sign of “responsibility.” In other words, these people feel important when they worry.

Or, for some people, worry is like an old shoe. They’ve grown comfortable with it and are reluctant to part with it. In fact, some people absolutely refuse to part with worry. It has become so much of a habit in their lives that they cannot imagine living without it. Still, other people hang on to worry because it is a means of drawing attention to themselves. They feel so insecure about themselves that they resort to unhealthful behavior patterns to affirm their worth. By worrying, they attract the attention of others and, in a sick way, that attention satisfies their need for affirmation.

All of the examples I’ve just given are obstacles that keep us from conquering worry. To achieve any level of success and freedom in life, we have to be willing to part with those things that are holding us back. In other words, we have to move out of our comfort zones–and I’m not saying this is easy to do–but it’s absolutely necessary if we are to grow. We have to push through the pain of growth, because on the other side of the pain, we will find freedom.

The same is no less true of conquering the worry habit. You have to want to conquer worry before you can conquer it.

Okay. Let’s assume that you truly want to conquer worry. What then? Well, the next step is to make a decision to conquer worry. You can have all the desire in the world to conquer worry, but unless you decide to do something about it, nothing will happen.

Let me give you a simple illustration. Most of us at some point in our lives have struggled with losing weight. For instance, after I had my second child, I weighed ten pounds more than I weighed before I became pregnant. For years, I kept saying, “I want to lose these ten pounds. I have to lose these ten pounds.” I kept expressing the desire to lose those ten pounds, but I never made the decision to lose them. Consequently, those ten pounds stayed around right where I didn’t want them. Every time I looked in the mirror, there they were, mockingly reminding me of their presence.

Would you believe this went on until my daughter was eighteen years old! Finally, at the end of those eighteen years, I said to myself not only that I wanted to lose those ten pounds, but also that I would lose them without fail. And surely enough, I lost those ten pounds. What made the difference? The difference was my quality decision to lose weight.

A man I highly respect once said that a quality decision is a decision from which there is absolutely no retreat. In other words, I decided to lose those ten pounds, and there was no turning back from my decision.

Conquering the worry habit–or any habit, for that matter–requires the same kind of unflinching determination. Without that kind of determination, you will cave in when the going gets tough.The good news, however, is that once you’ve made the decision to conquer worry, you have won half the battle.

The next thing you need to do is to recognize that worry is a learned habit. No one is born into this world a worrier. So, since you once learned the worry habit, you can unlearn it.

“Worry is a learned habit.”

When endeavoring to unlearn a bad habit, it also helps to determine the root cause of it. So let’s explore the root cause of worry. In this world, there are  two basic forces at work: the life force of God, called “Faith” and the death force of Satan, called “Fear.” Worry is really a form of fear and, therefore, comes from Satan. It is not God’s will that you worry. God makes this very clear in the Bible, the operating manual He provided for us when He created us.

For instance, in John chapter 14, verse 27, God says, “Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” Elsewhere, in Matthew 6, verse 34, He says, “Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow.” These two statements are not suggestions; they are commands. And God’s commands are not to be taken lightly. To do so results in bad things happening.

Since God commands us not to worry, this means that we have the ability not to worry. You see, God never commands us to do something we are incapable of doing. If He did, He would be unjust, and God is not unjust. He is perfectly just.

Moreover, if we disobey God’s command not to worry, we become guilty of sin. Yes, worrying is a sin!

Now, before you get totally down on yourself, let me encourage you. Maybe you feel that no matter how hard you try, you just can’t stop worrying. You wish you could, but worry has a grip on you that you cannot seem to shake. What can you do?

Here are five steps that have helped me when I have been tempted to worry:

Step #1: Decide and determine that you are going to obey God’s command not to worry, no matter what the cost. Do you know that you can choose not to worry. Yes, you heard me right. You can choose not to worry. Sure, you may be thinking, that may be easy for you to say, but you don’t understand my situation. I just lost my job, and I have five mouths to feed. How can I not worry? Or, my husband just walked out on me and left me with two kids, and you expect me not to worry?

Let me say right upfront that I certainly empathize with you. I know what it feels like to face a seemingly impossible situation and be attacked with worry. I’ve been there, and it’s not a pleasant place to be. But I also know from personal experience that we can choose not to worry. You see, God created us with a free will. Our will is that part of us that makes decisions. With our will, we can decide not to worry, no matter how we feel. And this brings me to my next step for conquering worry.

Step #2: Do not give in to feelings of worry. Resist them! To give in to feelings of worry is to feed those feelings. To resist feelings of worry is to starve them. Worry is like a raging forest fire. The longer you let it go unchecked, the fiercer it grows. By the same token, when you resist feelings of worry, it’s like putting water on that fire. If you keep resisting feelings of worry, you will find that, eventually, the feelings of worry will be quenched.

Step #3: Realize that worry is a malfunction of the imagination. At any given moment, our imaginations are being controlled either by faith or by fear. When we worry, we allow fear to have the upper hand. This is the reason God instructs us to keep our minds filled with thoughts that build and inspire faith. In Philippians chapter 4, verse 8, He says, “Fix your thoughts on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine, good things in others. Think about all you can praise God for and be glad about. And the God of peace will be with you.” Here, God is telling us that when we think good and right thoughts, we will experience His peace. And God’s peace includes the absence of worry.

Well, what are good and right thoughts? They are thoughts of hope, not thoughts of dread. Thoughts of faith, not thoughts of fear. Thoughts of trust in God’s protection, not thoughts of doubt about His protection. In short, good and right thoughts are those thoughts that line up with the Word of God. You see, what we think about affects our feelings. If you constantly think that the worst is about to happen, you will constantly worry. If, on the other hand, you continually think pleasant thoughts, you will continually be at peace.

Step #4: Realize that worry is not a sign of responsible behavior. Many people believe that if they do not worry, they are not acting responsibly. On the contrary, to worry is to act irresponsibly, for when we worry, we cannot think straight. Worry clouds logical thinking and results in poor decisions. 

Step #5: Understand that you will never completely conquer worry in your own strength. You need God’s help. Happily, that help is always available. God tells us in Psalm 46, verses 1 and 2, that He is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore, we will not fear. God is eager to help you conquer worry completely. In fact, He has already made a way for you to do so. That way is His Son Jesus Christ. Only by receiving Christ into your life will you completely conquer worry and every other sin in your life. For when you receive Jesus Christ, you receive His power to overcome. And you receive the total restoration of your relationship with God the Father.

You see, Christianity is not a religion. It’s a personal relationship with God the Father through His Son Jesus Christ. Only through Jesus Christ can we have this relationship, for Jesus Himself said, “I am the Way and the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me” (John chapter 14, verse 6). 

So, if you’re tired of allowing worry to dominate your life–in fact, if you’re tired of allowing any other problem to dominate your life–turn to Jesus Christ today. He alone can set you free. And not only is He able to set you free, He is willing and eager to set you free. In no other name than the Name of Jesus Christ is there power to deliver you from bondage. 

Perhaps you want to be free of alcoholism or drug addiction, or smoking, or a bad temper, or an addiction to pornography–whatever it is–Jesus Christ and only Jesus Christ can set you free. Ask Him to do so right now. He has been patiently waiting for you to ask Him for His help. For some of you, He’s been waiting a very long time. Don’t let Him wait a moment longer. And don’t allow yourself to remain in bondage a moment longer. Join me now by repeating this simple prayer after me:

Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I admit that I am a sinner in need of Your mercy and grace. I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died for me, and that You rose again on the third day. I invite You now to come into my life. I receive You as my personal Savior and as the Lord of my life. Make of me all that You created me to be. Amen.

If you sincerely prayed this prayer, you are now a born-again Christ-Follower. I invite you to write to me at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. I would like to send you a little booklet that will help you get started in your Christian life.  Also, I invite you to pray for Holy Spirit to lead you to the church of His choice for you, the place where you can serve God with your gifts and where you can be fed on His Word so that you may grow and become more and more like Jesus. 

Finally, I invite you to visit my website at www.maryanndiorio.com

If you are in need of physical healing or prayer for any other need, please write to me as well and I will be happy to pray for you. 

A wise person once said that “worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles; it empties today of its strength.” Don’t let worry empty your today of its strength. Instead, replace worry with trust in God. When you do, not only will all your todays be filled with peace, but so will all your tomorrows. Until next time, remember that God loves you just as you are and just where you are, and He will help you to keep on winning with the Word!

Now, it’s YOUR turn: What about you? Do you struggle with worry? What has helped you to overcome worry? Please share your comments in the Comments Box below. Thank you!

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LIVING IN A VIOLENT WORLD

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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School has already been in session for over a month now, but perhaps some of you parents and grandparents have been sending your children and grandchildren off to school this year with more than the usual amount of anxiety. With all the violence in our world today, particularly as it relates to children, a new phobia has developed in our culture–a phobia that the young loved ones we send off to school in the morning may not come home in the afternoon.

Are you a victim of this phobia? Do you spend the entire day worried about the safety of your children? Perhaps some of you who are reading this post or listening to the podcast are, yourselves, students who arrive at school every morning wondering if you’ll leave there alive that afternoon. Certainly, this is no way to live, and, certainly, God does not want you to live this way.

But what can be done? Do we need tougher laws? Do we need more security in our schools? Do we need to screen students more carefully? While all of these measures may provide a small amount of improvement, they do not get to the root cause of the problem.

You see, no amount of external changes in policy will effect a lasting safety for our children, nor for ourselves. The reason is that the problem lies not in the external circumstances, but in the internal arena of the human heart. It is in the human heart that the battle against violence is waged.

In Proverbs chapter 23, verse 7, the Bible says that “as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” This means that a person will respond to life based on what is in his heart.

Well, if we continually fill our hearts with evil, such as images of violence, hatred, and lust, then we will respond to life with violence, hatred, and lust. If, on the other hand, we fill our hearts with good images–such as kindness, peace, and love–then we will respond to life with kindness, peace, and love. To expect to change society without first changing the heart is futile, because in order to change the fruit, we first have to change the root. The root of a person is his heart.

So, how does all of this relate to the safety of our children in our schools? It relates very significantly because we now know that our major efforts in protecting our children must be directed not toward more social programs, but toward changing the human heart. 

Well, you may be thinking, that’s all well and good, but how can we change the human heart? The answer to that excellent question is, “We can’t! Only God can.” But there are some very important things we can do to get God to change the human heart. Let me share some of these things with you. They are found in 2 Chronicles chapter 7, verse 14. There God says, “If My people, who are called by My Name, will humble themselves and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and heal their land.”

This Scripture passage gives us a formula for addressing the problems we face as a society and, more specifically, for ensuring our safety, both in our schools and in our country. Let’s look at this passage closely:

  1. “If My people who are called by My Name ….” God is speaking to those of us who belong to Him, those of us who have been born again and are part of the Kingdom of God. He is saying that we are the ones who are responsible for getting our country back on track, for we alone are the ones who know how to do so. We alone have the power and the authority through Jesus Christ to do so. And how do we do so? The rest of the passage tells us.
  2. “If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves ….” (Italics mine). We are to humble ourselves before the Lord. What does this mean? It means that we are to acknowledge our helplessness without God. We are to admit our need for Him, our total dependence on Him. We are to give up all pride and self-sufficiency and realize that without God, we are nothing and we can do nothing. We are to confess our sins and the sins of our nation and repent of them.
  3. And seek My face  ….” We are to seek God’s face. This means that we are to look for Him first of all in His Word, in our time spent alone with Him in prayer, in our fellow believers throughout the world, and in creation. We are to make God number one in our lives. We are to desire Him above all else, to crave Him as a vital necessity.
  4. “And turn from their wicked ways ….” We are to turn from our wicked ways. It’s very interesting to do a study of the word “wicked.” Most of us know what wicker furniture is. It is furniture in which the wood is twisted to form interesting shapes in the finished product. Well, the word “wicked” means “twisted.” A person is wicked when he twists the truth to suit his own circumstances.

For instance, God’s Word commands us to tithe, to give the first ten percent of our income to the Lord’s work. But someone may say, “I don’t need to tithe because God understands that I don’t have enough money.” That person is twisting the truth of God’s Word and is, therefore, acting wickedly. He is following a wicked way.

These three steps–humbling ourselves, seeking God’s face, and turning from our wicked ways–are the conditions which, when fulfilled, will cause God to move on our behalf. Let’s see what God will do when we’ve humbled ourselves, sought His face, and turned from our wicked ways.

Verse 14 of the second chapter of Chronicles says that God will do three things:

___He will hear from Heaven. Have you ever prayed to God and felt as though your prayers were falling on deaf ears? Well, maybe they were! If so, ask yourself if you have fulfilled the conditions that gain God’s attention. Have you humbled yourself before him? Have you sought His face? Have you turned from your wicked ways? Now, these conditions apply to those who have already been born again because God makes it clear at the beginning of this verse that He is talking to His people.

A person who is not born again can cry out to God for forgiveness and God will always hear him. But God expects more from His children. He expects us to know better than to be proud, to neglect Him, and to act wickedly. He expects us to obey Him.

___The second thing God will do when we obey Him is He will forgive our sin. God is infinitely merciful, always ready and willing to forgive us. But we have to show Him that we sincerely desire His forgiveness and that we sincerely intend to turn from our sin and follow His way.

___Finally, the third thing God will do when we turn back to Him is He will heal our land. This is critical to the safety of our children, for when our land is healed, violence will give place to peace and danger will give place to safety. 

But how can all of this be accomplished? It will be accomplished through the changing of the human heart, one person at a time. It is up to those of us who are followers of Christ to allow ourselves to be used by God as He does the changing. It is up to us to tell others about the love of Christ and what He has done and desires to do for every human being.

The Word says in Romans 10: 14-15: “How then shall they call on Him in Whom they have not believed, and how shall they believe in Him of Whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher?” How can people know about Christ unless they hear about Him? And how can they hear about Him unless you and I tell them about Him?

I thank God for the young woman named Margo who first told me about Jesus Christ. I shudder to think of what would have happened to me had she not had the courage to tell me of Christ’s love and saving grace. Because of Margo, not only will I spend eternity in heaven with Jesus Christ, but countless other people will as well because I told them about Jesus Christ.

So, if you want your children to be safe in school, pray for their safety. But also, tell others about Jesus Christ. Tell parents and teenagers, grandparents and single moms. Tell the person standing behind you in the checkout line, the person sitting beside you in the waiting room at the dentist’s office, the plumber who comes to repair your leaky faucet. When you do, God will do His part about changing hearts. And when enough hearts are changed, our country will once again become safe for our children and for us.

Perhaps some of you listening have never heard about the power of Jesus Christ to change your life. Perhaps you never heard the term “born again,” but you want to know more. You’re tired of living in fear, defeat, and depression. You’re hungry for change but don’t know where to turn. Well, let me introduce you to the most awesome friend you will ever know: Jesus Christ, the Savior of the World. His title says it all. He came to save everyone. But in order to receive the salvation He earned on the Cross, you have to believe that He died for you personally, and then you have to accept His sacrifice for you.

I know in my spirit that there are many of you listening today who have tried every path to freedom but each one has led you to a dead end. You’ve reached the end of your rope. Some of you are even ready to end it all. But before you do, give yourself one more chance. Invite Jesus into your life today. You’ll discover that He is the One you’ve been looking for all along.

Just pray this simple prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I admit that I am a sinner in need of Your mercy and grace. I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died for me, and that You rose again on the third day. I invite You now to come into my life. I receive You as my personal Savior and as the Lord of my life. Make of me all that You created me to be. Amen.

If you sincerely prayed this prayer, you are now a born-again Christ-Follower. I invite you to write to me at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. I would like to send you a little booklet that will help get you started in your Christian walk.  Also I invite you to visit me at my website at maryanndiorio.com

Now, it’s YOUR turn: What about you? Do you fear for your children’s safety? Please share your comments in the Comments Box below. Thank you!

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Is the Apocalypse Near?” 

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How to Handle Offense

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Are you angry and upset today because someone has done you wrong? Maybe the wrong was done to you years ago, but you’ve never gotten over it. Perhaps you were abused as a child, whether sexually, physically, or verbally, by the very person who should have protected you and taken care of you. Perhaps you were wronged by an unfaithful spouse, a broken promise, or a lie someone told about you. Whatever the case, you now feel bitter and have vowed never to forgive the person who hurt you. 

Does this describe you? If so, God wants to speak to your heart today. So listen carefully to what He wants to say to you because it is literally a matter of life or death.

Today, we’re going to be talking about the trap of offense. I call it a trap because that’s exactly what it is. The reason offense is a trap is that, like any trap, it’s hidden and it is baited. The one who hides it and the one who baits it is Satan.

What exactly is meant by the word “offense”? According to Webster, offense is “the state of being insulted or morally outraged.” When you are offended, you are insulted by or outraged at what someone has done to you, and you want to get back at the person who has offended you.

It’s interesting to me that the Greek word for offend is scandalon. Originally, this word scandalon referred to the part of a trap to which the bait was attached. So, we could say that the word “offend” means to lay a trap in someone’s way.

When it comes to offense, Satan is the master trap-layer. If we are not careful, we will fall into his traps and suffer tragic consequences as a result. You probably never considered offense as a trap, but that’s exactly what it is. And it’s a trap we have to guard against with every fiber of our being.

At some point in our lives, all of us will experience offense–times when people will hurt us deeply. In fact, to quote Jesus Himself in Luke 17: 1, “It is impossible that no offenses should come.” So we see that it is inevitable that people will offend us. But while we cannot escape offense, we can deal with it in such a way that it will not affect us adversely. We can overcome it and be blessed in the process.

The way to overcome offense is to deal with it God’s way. Most people, when wronged, want to get back at the person who wronged them. For example, a man may have been unfaithful to his wife. The wife, deeply hurt, decides that she will get back at her husband by being unfaithful to him in return. Her retaliatory behavior only complicates the problem, and now the wife and the marriage are in a worse situation than if the wife had handled the problem God’s way. 

What is God’s way of handling offense? Let’s go to the Bible, God’s instruction manual for man to find out what God has to say about handling offense. In learning how to handle offense, Jesus is our perfect example. In the first letter of Peter, chapter 2, verses 21 to 23, we read this information about Jesus: “When He was reviled, He did not revile in return. When He suffered, He did not threaten but committed Himself to Him Who judges righteously.”

Notice that when Jesus was offended, He did not retaliate. He did not try to get even with those who had wronged Him. He did not threaten them in any way. What did He do then? The Bible says that He “committed Himself to Him Who judges righteously.” Who is “He Who judges righteously”?  God the Father is He Who judges righteously. In other words, Jesus did not try to handle the problem Himself. Instead, He put the problem into His Father’s hands and trusted His Father to handle it for Him.

Why did Jesus do this? Why did He not take matters into His own hands? We find the answer in the Book of Hebrews, chapter 10, verse 30. There we read the following statement: “‘Vengeance is Mine. I will repay,’ says the Lord.” What does this mean? It means that only God reserves the right to inflict punishment for an offense. Only He reserves the right to pay people what is due to them. In other words, only God reserves the right to punish those who have offended us. Unless they repent, they will not be able to escape God’s wrath and punishment. Unless they repent, payday is surely coming.

By implication, this verse also means that we ourselves do not have the right to punish others for hurting us. We do not have the right to take matters into our own hands. Yet, this is precisely what many people do. They determine in their hearts to get even with the person who wronged them.

What happens when we try to get even? When we try to get even, the very evil we do toward the person who wronged us will ricochet back to us. This is a spiritual law that cannot be changed or over-ridden. Getting even is forbidden by God. In Romans 12: 21, He commands us to overcome evil with good. This is not easy to do, but we must do it if we want to obey God. Moreover, we must do it if we do not want to suffer the bitter consequences of revenge.

If you are currently living in a state of offense–that is, if you are bitter toward someone who has hurt you–here are some things you can do to get rid of offense:

  1. DECIDE to get rid of offense. Some people refuse to give up bitterness. They hold on to it like a security blanket, dragging it around with them and chewing on it every waking moment. Getting rid of offense requires a determined decision to do so. Make that decision today!
  2. CONFESS to God that you have been guilty of holding on to offense and of refusing to forgive the people who hurt you. After you confess your sin to God, repent of it. This means t make a decision not to allow yourself to be offended ever again. Repentance means making an about-face and choosing to go in the opposite direction. Give God all your hurt, and ask Him to help you when you face the temptation to be offended.
  3. FORGIVE. In your mind PICTURE the person who has wronged you. It may be more than one person. If so, take one person at a time and forgive that person. How do you forgive? It’s very simple. Let’s assume, for instance, that the person who wronged you is named John. Simply say, “God, I forgive John for having hurt me.”

    Now, you may not feel any different after you forgive, but that doesn’t matter because forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a decision. After you forgive someone, you may still experience negative feelings at the sight of or the thought of that person. If you do, remind yourself and remind Satan that you have forgiven that person. Then bless the person who wronged you.

  4. PRAY for the person who wronged you. This is one of the best ways to implement forgiveness in your life. Remember that hurting people hurt people. Let me repeat that: Hurting people hurt people. In other words, only people who are themselves hurting inside hurt other people. This will give you a fresh perspective on those who have wronged you. This is not to say that they are not responsible for their actions.They are responsible, just as all of us are responsible for our actions. It is to say, however, that those who wronged you were themselves hurting inside because they, in turn, were hurt by someone else.

    The cycle of hurt can be a vicious cycle if we allow it to be and if we don’t stop it. But, thank God, we can stop it. There’s only one way, however, to stop the cycle of offense and that way is through love as expressed through forgiveness. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians, chapter 13, verse 8 that “love never fails.” What a profound statement! Just think about it for a moment. Love NEVER fails! This means that whenever we act with love, whenever we respond to any problem with love, we will find a way over, around, or through that problem. We will always come out on top. That’s a promise to us straight from the heart of God.

    But living a life of love is not an easy thing to do. In fact, it’s impossible unless we know the Author of Love, God Himself. It is only through His power that we can love with His kind of love. God’s kind of love never gets offended. In fact the person who walks in God’s kind of love hardly even notices when someone offends him.

    Let’s take a closer look at God’s kind of love. It is beautifully described in the first book of Corinthians, chapter 13, verses 4 to 8. Let’s listen to what it says: Love is very patient and kind. Never jealous or envious. Never boastful or proud. Never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out. If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him. All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever.” In other words, as we said earlier, love never fails.

    Would you like to experience this kind of love? Would you like to get rid of the offense that has been ruining your life? Would you like to live in the freedom that comes only from walking in love? You can, you know. But there’s only one way, and that is through receiving Jesus Christ into your life. Jesus Christ is LOVE PERSONIFIED. 

    You know, when you refuse to forgive someone for hurting you, you tie yourself to that hurt in such a way that it will eventually destroy you. The bitterness it engenders will take root in your heart and, eventually, will even make you physically sick. Worse than that, God says that if you refuse to forgive, then He cannot forgive you. And if God cannot forgive you, then when you die, you will spend eternity in Hell.

    Unforgiveness is serious stuff! In the Lord’s Prayer, we ask God to forgive us as we forgive those who sin against us. By these words we are saying, “God, forgive me in the same way and to the same degree that I forgive others.” Do you want God to forgive you and to the same degree that you are forgiving others? If we refuse to forgive others, then God will be obliged to refuse to forgive us. What a frightening thought! Is it worth it, then, to refuse to forgive?

    Deep down in our hearts, we know the answer to that question. So, let’s examine our hearts? Do we really want God to forgive us as we have forgiven others? I hope we can boldly say yes. If not, we need to turn to God right away and ask Him to help us forgive. We need to tap into the power of Jesus Christ which alone makes it possible for us to forgive.

    If you have not yet invited Jesus Christ into your life, I encourage you to do so now. Just pray this simple prayer with me now: Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I admit that I am a sinner in need of Your mercy and grace. I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died for me, and that You rose again on the third day. I invite You now to come into my life. I receive You as my personal Savior and all the Lord of my life. Make of me all that You created me to be. Amen.

    If you sincerely prayed this prayer, you are now a born-again Christ-Follower. I invite you to write to me at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. I would like to send you a little booklet that will help get you started in your Christian walk.  I also invite you to visit my website at maryanndiorio.com

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HOW TO PREPARE FOR THE RAPTURE

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It doesn’t take much to realize that something strange is going on in the world. People everywhere are noticing it. I’m sure you’ve been noticing it, too. There’s something in the air that’s making people tense. Nervous. 

Afraid.

So, what’s going on?

What’s going on is that the earth is moving toward the most cataclysmic event of all time–an event called the Rapture.

What is the Rapture? The word itself comes from the Latin word rapio, which means to seize or snatch away. It is the act of suddenly removing someone from one place and taking him to another. So, the Rapture of the Church means the sudden removal of Christ’s followers from the earth to take them to heaven.

In his first letter to the Thessalonians, written in Greek, Paul used the word harpazo to indicate this sudden removal. When Jerome later translated the Bible into Latin, he translated the word harpazo with the Latin word of the same meaning, rapio. Hence, the origin of the English word Rapture.

The Rapture is an instant in time when a trumpet will sound and Jesus Christ will appear in the sky to remove His followers from the earth before the Great Tribulation. The Apostle Paul describes the Rapture as follows in his first letter to the Thessalonians, chapter 4, verses 16 and 17: “For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a loud command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will be the first to rise. After that, we who are alive and remain will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will always be with the Lord.”

While many people scoff at the idea of the Rapture, it will happen. Those who are ready for it will be caught up in the air by our Lord and taken to heaven to be with Him forever. Those who are not ready will remain on the earth and suffer the most horrendous period of history the world has ever known under the dictatorship of a tyrannical world ruler called the Anti-Christ. This person will be Satan personified and will be brutal beyond imagination.

So, how do we prepare for the Rapture and escape the wrath of God to come? Here are three simple steps:

1. REPENT. This is the first and most important step. Only those who have been born again will be raptured. This means that if you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord, you will be left behind. So, stop right now and invite Jesus Christ into your life. Here is a simple prayer:  

Lord Jesus, I come to You just as I am. I choose to turn away from my sin and to embrace You as my Savior and my Lord. Come into my life. Save me. Make of me what You created me to be. Amen. 

If you sincerely prayed this prayer, you are now a child of God and will go up in the Rapture to be with Him forever.

2. BE HOLY. God is holy, and He expects His children to be holy. He says this in 1 Peter 1: 16: “Be ye holy; for I am holy.” Determine to live a life that is pleasing to God. A life that aligns with His Word. This means that we need to study His Word so that we can know the kind of life He wants us to live.

3. WARN OTHERS TO REPENT AND BE HOLY. This is called the Great Commission: “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature” (Mark 16: 15). Jesus commanded His followers to tell others about Him. He is the only way to be saved. Jesus Himself said this about Himself:  “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me” (John 14: 6). Tell others that Jesus is the only way to be saved. Once they have come to Christ, teach others to live holy lives so that they, too, will experience the joy of the abundant life in Christ.

Although we do not know the time of the Lord’s return, all signs indicate that it is very, very close. But even if it is not, any one of us could die at any moment. We are not promised tomorrow. So get right with God today! Now! The next moment may be too late.

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 What about you? Are you ready for the Rapture? Please share your questions and insights in the Comments Box below. Thank you!

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IS THE APOCALYPSE NEAR?

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The recent devastation in the Bahamas resulting from Hurricane Dorian has been described as apocalyptic. Other words used to describe this, and other recent catastrophes, have been unprecedented, unrecorded, breaking all records. Do you not find it strange, as I do, that certain events are occurring in ways that have never occurred before? That, while there have always been terrible storms, earthquakes, and pestilence, these things are occurring with more frequency and with greater intensity?  

Although the world wonders why, the reason is clear in the Holy Scriptures. The prophets of old, including Daniel, Isaiah, and Ezekiel, predicted the very events that we are witnessing in our world today. How can this be?

The answer is simple. The Bible is God’s Word and everything contained within its pages is absolutely true. In fact, most of the prophecies in the Bible have already happened, and they have happened with the precision with which they were first written. 

So, what does all of this mean for you and me?

It means that Jesus Christ will soon be returning to remove His followers from this world, just as He said He would. This will occur in a cataclysmic event called the Rapture. It also means that we need to get ready if we want to be among those who will be removed. Why? Because those who are left behind will find themselves living during the most horrific time in human history–the time the Bible refers to as the Great Tribulation.

During this time, the world will come under the rulership of an absolute dictator the Bible calls the “AntiChrist.” He will rule with terror and will eventually call himself God. But he will be Satan personified.

Perhaps all of this is new to you. If so, take heart. You are reading this because God has led you to this post. He loves you and wants you to escape the wrath to come.

But how?

There is only one way. That way is to accept Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. If you have never done so, I strongly urge you to do so now. Here is a simple prayer you can pray:

Lord Jesus, I need You. I come to You just as I am. I desire a personal relationship with You, so I repent of my sin and receive You now as my Savior and Lord. Preserve me from the wrath to come. Make of me what You created me to be. I pray this in Your Name. Amen.

Once you pray this prayer, begin reading your Bible daily. Pray that God will lead you to a good church that preaches and teaches the Bible without compromise. And please let me know in the comment box that you have been born again! I will send you a booklet that will help you get started in your walk with Christ.

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If you found this post helpful, please forward it to a friend. Thank you! You may also be interested in reading the following popular posts:

“Convergence: Clear Sign of the End Times”

“The Rise of Wicca, Witches, and Warlocks” 

Please check our archives in the right sidebar for older posts on a variety of topics. You may also search for a particular topic in the search box at the top right. 

For additional encouragement, check out my podcasts at the following links:

A Moment with MaryAnn – Podcasts on Living the Good Life

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Write Your Heart Out! – Podcasts for Writers

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