Coping with the Curves of Life

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

Change. It happens to all of us. Sometimes it’s planned; often, it’s not.
Always it must be faced.

Change can be our enemy or our ally. It all depends on how we handle it. So, what is the best way to handle change? That, too, depends on the situation. One thing to know for sure is that all change requires some element of risk-taking, of moving out of your comfort zone. But the very process of taking risks and moving out of your comfort zone can make you a better person with a lot more to give to those in your circle of influence.

Here are a few tips that have worked for me in handling change:

1-Don’t be afraid of change. Look on it as an opportunity for growth–an adventure that will bring you to a higher level of satisfaction with your life.

2-Don’t be afraid to take risks. No one ever succeeded in life without taking risks. In fact, I like to think of risk-taking as a synonym for faith. When we take a risk, we are stepping out in faith. Now, the risk must not be a careless risk, like quitting your job without a few months of backup income. The risk must be a calculated risk, meaning you’ve prayed about taking the risk, you’ve carefully thought out the pros and cons, and you’ve discussed those pros and cons with trusted friends and colleagues. Based on your research and their input, and based on what God has been speaking to your heart, you’ve decided to proceed with taking the risk.

If you change nothing, nothing will change.

3-Don’t keep doing the same thing. If what you’ve been doing hasn’t gotten you the results you want, then change what you are doing. As Albert Einstein once purportedly said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If you want different results in your life, you will have to change your approach to solving your problems.

There you have it. Three simple, but not easy, steps in making change your ally. Applying these three steps to your life will result in changes that will make your life happier and more fulfilling.

Now, it’s YOUR turn:  How have you handled change in your life? Please leave your response in the Comment Box below. Thank you!

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Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

Attitudes That Keep You from Success

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

Are you your own worst enemy?  Are your thinking patterns such that they lead you to discouragement and despair?

I understand. Been there. Done that.

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For far too many years, I was my own worst enemy. I didn’t realize it at the time, but as Holy Spirit began to clean me up after I was born again, I realized that many of my problems in life resulted from my wrong thinking patterns.

As I began to align my thinking with God’s thinking as found in the Bible, my life began to change dramatically for the better.

If you are your own worst enemy, let me share with you three Scriptural principles I discovered in Romans 12: 2 that literally changed my life. Let’s take a look at the verse:

Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God—what is good and is pleasing to him and is perfect.

There are three important principles in this verse that, if you apply them, will change your life for the better, as they did mine. Here are the three principles:

  1. Do not follow the world’s way of thinking.  The world’s way of thinking leads to death and destruction. What is the world’s way of thinking? It is any way of thinking that opposes God’s Word. God’s way of thinking is directly opposite the world’s way of thinking. So if we see the world going one way–e.g., transgenderism, homosexuality, greed for money, then we must go the opposite way.
  2. Let God change you. God alone can change us, but we must cooperate with Him to effect that change.
  3. Experiencing God’s will for you follows a change in your thinking. When you change your way of thinking to agree with God’s way of thinking (as found in the Bible), you will begin to know and experience God’s perfect will for you.  What is God’s will for you? Blessings and more blessings!

All change in life comes from a change in our thinking. Start thinking God’s way and you will no longer be your own worst enemy. Instead, you will be your own best friend.

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How to Come Out of Your Cocoon

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

Change comes about only through our willingness to give up old paradigms and replace them with new ones. This is a heart issue.

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We resist change because change means death, and we fear death in all of its forms. Especially when it means death to the ego or the self.

Jesus said we must die in order to live (Mathew 16:25). This means we must die to old ways of thinking and replace them with God’s ways of thinking. Only in this way can we be truly transformed.

Only in this way can we truly live.

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