The Four C’s of a Great Marriage

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio


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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, novelist and life coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is Monday, July 25, 2022, and this is Episode #30 of Series 2022. This episode is titled “The Four C’s of a Great Marriage.”


My younger daughter was married two weeks ago to a wonderful, Godly man in a beautiful ceremony. The officiating pastor gave a wonderful message on the three C’s of marriage: Companionship, Commitment, and Covenant. I would like to expound on that message here and add another C: Communication.

Let’s explore each of these four C’s of a great marriage one by one.

1. COVENANT. The most important point about a marriage is that it is a covenant. A covenant is more than a contract. According to Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, the precursor of today’s Webster’s Dictionary, a covenant is “a binding agreement.” In other words, a covenant imposes an obligation on the part of each party to keep the agreement until the death of one of the parties.

Whereas a contract involves two people, a covenant involves three: the man, the woman, and God. Because God is involved in a covenant, it is deemed by Him to be unbreakable. Hence, His warning in Mark 10: 9 NASB: “Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.” A covenant, therefore, is sealed with a vow before God to honor the covenant until death. 

2. COMMITMENT. The strength of a marriage depends on the integrity of the husband and the wife to remain committed to the marriage no matter what the cost of that commitment. Every marriage will have its trying times. Trials are part of God’s plan to conform us to the image of Christ. Just as making a muscle strong requires repeated resistance, so does making a marriage strong require repeated trials. 

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned about marriage and about life, in general, is that God’s goal for us is not our happiness but our holiness. Trials help to make us holy if we maintain the Biblical perspective toward trials. Trials are for our spiritual growth. But whether we grow or not through our trials depends on our attitude toward them. 

Something amazing happens when we resist and overcome trials. We not only become holy; we also become happy.

3. COMMUNICATION. Good communication is key in cultivating a good marriage. The Bible is full of principles for good communication. Here are a few of them:

__James 1: 19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” 
__Proverbs 10: 19 – “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
__Proverbs 12: 18 – “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

4. COMPANIONSHIP. When the three elements above–Covenant, Commitment, and Communication–are put into practice, then beautiful, intimate companionship follows. Companionship is oneness of soul. The Word says that in a marriage, the two become one flesh (Mark 10: 8). The flesh is comprised of both the body and the soul. Therefore, “one flesh” does not mean only physical oneness. It also means oneness of soul. 

My husband and I have been married for 52 years. We continually implement these four C’s of marriage, and we can tell you that they work. A good marriage is built by keeping Christ at the center of your life and at the center of your marriage.

If Jesus is not yet the center of your life, make Him so right now. Pray this simple prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I repent of my sin. I want to make You the Center of my life. I ask You to forgive me and to cleanse me of all unrighteousness. I receive You now as my Savior and my Lord. Thank You for saving me. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

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I also encourage you to get yourself a Bible and read it every single day. The Bible is God’s love letter to you, His manual for your life. In the Bible, God reveals Who He is, and He teaches you how to live.

Finally, ask the Lord to lead you to the church of His choice for you where you can learn Truth and experience fellowship and encouragement with other Christ-Followers. It is critically important in these last days to fellowship with other believers who are mature in Christ and who can guide you as you grow in Him.

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(Business) Indie Publishing: Is It for You?

Who Is Jesus COVER front - RGBI just completed the long process of publishing my first indie project: a children’s picture book entitled WHO IS JESUS?  The book will be released October 1st.

The journey has been adventurous, with lots of twists and turns along the way. But in the process I’ve learned that creating and producing a good book requires courage, commitment, and clarity.  Let’s consider each, one by one.

Courage.  It has been said that courage is not the absence of fear, but the act of moving forward in the face of fear.  The thought of indie-publishing a full-color children’s book seemed daunting.  After all, it required not only the writing of the text, but also the artistic expertise of an illustrator who would share my vision for the book. By the grace of God, I found that illustrator in Kim Sponaugle.  Kim instinctively understood what I was trying to convey with my book.  She ran with the idea and succeeded fantastically, as you will see from some excerpts from the book below.

FA 23Also by the grace of God, I found the perfect publisher for my book in Candy Abbott, owner and CEO of Fruitbearer Publishing, LLC.  Candy is an amazing woman with a wealth of knowledge on book publishing. She guides each book through the publishing process as if it were her own.

Interestingly, I met both Candy and Kim years ago.  I met Candy at the Delaware Christian Writers’ Conference where we struck up a friendship that I knew would one day lead to my using her excellent services.  As for Kim, we met at the annual conference of the New Jersey Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators held at Princeton University.  Having seen the work she did for another author friend of mine, I knew that one day I wanted Kim to illustrate one of my children’s books.FA 15

Commitment. Indie publishing requires a high level of commitment to the task at hand. There will be times when things will go wrong, even seriously wrong.  At one point, a Trojan virus threatened to obliterate all of our book files.  At another time, health issues and a death in the family intervened with getting the job done.  But with God on our side, we forged ahead, confident that we would reach the finish line. And, by His grace, we did! 🙂

Clarity. There is an old saying that if you don’t know where you’re going, you won’t like where you’ll end up. One of the most important things I’ve learned about indie publishing is to be absolutely clear about your goals and about communicating your goals. Clarity pre-empts misunderstandings that can cause glitches in the process.

Having completed one indie project, I am ready for another. I have several children’s books and works of women’s fiction in the works and look forward to the opportunity to co-labor with Christ in these other works of his heart.  There is nothing that rejoices my heart more than to proclaim, “Look what the Lord has done!”

NOTE: To purchase your copy of WHO IS JESUS?, click here.

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