HOW TO RECOGNIZE PRIDE IN YOUR LIFE

Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

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PRIDE. How do we know if we’re guilty of it. By its very nature, pride does not see itself. So, let’s ask ourselves these seven questions to determine if there is pride in our lives. And if there is, let’s repent and drive it out in the Name of Jesus:

1–Is there strife in my life? “Where there is strife, there is pride” (Proverbs 13: 10a). Strife is always the fruit of pride. Indeed, there can be no strife unless pride enters first. As we eliminate pride from our lives, we will eliminate strife as well. 

2–Is there fear or worry in my life? Fear and worry reveal my toxic reliance on myself instead of on God. Fear and worry reveal that I want control because I think I can handle things better than God. This is pride. 

3–Do I worry about what people think of me? The Bible says that people-pleasers cannot serve God because they are more concerned about what others think of them than about what God thinks of them: “If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant” (Galatians 1: 10). Whenever we elevate man above God, we are guilty of pride.

4–Do I have an “entitlement mentality”? Do I think that the world owes me something? Do I think I deserve to have this or that? The truth is we deserve nothing but Hell were it not for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. An entitlement mentality is a clear sign of pride.  

5–Do I think I”m better than someone else? Pride exalts itself and diminishes others. The Bible says this: “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves” (Philippians 2: 3).

6–Am I a hypocrite? In other words, do I act one way at home and another way in public? “But they do all their deeds to be noticed by men….” (Matthew 23: 5). This, again is pride.

7–Do I resist submitting to God-given authority? Do I buck my husband, my boss, my pastor, my parents? Do I refuse to submit to them or do I give them a hard time? Let’s remember this word of the Lord: “Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” (1 Samuel 15: 23).

Every day I must examine myself for signs of pride. It is an insidious sin and the one that got Adam and Eve expelled from the Garden of Eden. They questioned God’s integrity, deeming that they knew better than God. To question God’s integrity is pride–plain and simple.

My Prayer for Us Today: “May God reveal to us any areas of pride in our lives, and may He give us the grace to renounce it once and for all.”

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Do you struggle with pride? If so, how do you overcome it? Please leave your valued comment in the box below. 

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NOW IS THE TIME TO PUSH!

“Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23

Saints of God, it’s time to PUSH!
I can hear you now. “What is she talking about?”

I’m talking about birthing the Kingdom of God in the earth and your role in it.

Some of you reading this have physically birthed a child. You know that there is a critical moment, when the contractions are most intense, that you have to push to launch your baby into the world.

Well, Jesus has begun to birth the Kingdom of God. The contractions are getting more and more intense. So intense, in fact, that it’s time for His followers to push.

We see this increasing intensity in what is going on in the world around us: rampant lawlessness, scoffing of the Bible and Christianity, intense vitriol in the news media, hateful division among our leaders, inhumane brutality, the love of pleasure, widespread greed, the rising apostate Church. We also see the imminent birth of the Kingdom in the increasing talk about peace and safety among world leaders. All of these things point to the soon return of Jesus Christ and the subsequent birth of His Kingdom.

Let’s look at what the Word says about our times:

2 Peter 3:3-4, TLB. “First, I want to remind you that in the last days there will come scoffers who will do every wrong they can think of, and laugh at the truth. This will be their line of argument: ‘So Jesus promised to come back, did He? Then where is He? He’ll never come! Why, as far back as anyone can remember everything has remained exactly as it was since the first day of creation.'”

2 Timothy 3:1-5, NIV. “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.”

I Thessalonians 5:2-3, NIV. “For you know very well that the day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night. While people are saying, ‘Peace and safety,’ destruction will come on them suddenly, as labor pains on a pregnant woman, and they will not escape.”

Now is the time to PUSH!

As Christ-Followers, we have been called to prepare the way for the Lord’s return. As we await Him, we are to remain occupied (Luke 19: 13). This means we are to be in the process of enforcing His Kingdom wherever He places us, of taking back the territory the enemy has stolen from us, and of occupying that territory until the return of King Jesus. This is what the famous words of the Lord’s Prayer–Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven–mean. As bearers of His Light, our job is to push back the darkness so that the Light of Christ can displace it.

So, how do we push back the darkness? I would suggest three ways:

1-Push through the Problem. Understand that Satan hates you because you carry the Light of Christ within you. So, Satan will do whatever he can to prevent the Light of Christ that you carry from driving out the darkness in your circle of influence. He will place problem after problem in your path. He will put obstacle after obstacle in front of you as you advance. But Satan cannot win unless we give up. And that is exactly what he wants us to do. So, whatever problem you are facing, push through it. Scripture says, “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4: 7)

2-Push through the Price. No price is too high to pay for advancing the Kingdom of God. If we refuse to advance because of the price–whether that price be a relationship, a career, or a personal ambition–then we are not worthy of being called a Christ-Follower.

3-Push through the Pride. Yes, pride. Too many who call themselves Christians–especially in the western Church–are so self-absorbed that they are virtually clueless to the signs of the times. They are more concerned with their own personal agendas than the agenda of the Father. Yet, our Lord called us to watch and to be prepared for His return. Listen to what He said:

Matthew 24:42-44, TLB. “So be prepared, for you don’t know what day your Lord is coming. Just as a man can prevent trouble from thieves by keeping watch for them, so you can avoid trouble by always being ready for My unannounced return.”

Saints of God, are you prepared to push? Are you prepared to usher in the return of Christ? Are you prepared to meet the Lord in the air at the time of the Rapture?

As one of the Lord’s many watchmen on the wall, I urge you to take your place in the army of God that is pushing forward to drive out the darkness. Use the power and authority Christ has given you as one of His Followers and help usher in the return of our Savior and Lord!

Nothing is more important!

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How to Get Free of the Secret Sorrow of Loneliness

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, The Virtual Life Coach

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Before my children left the nest, I used to tell myself (and others) that I didn’t expect to feel “empty” when they finally left because I had a full life with my husband, my writing ministry, and my friends and family. Although I would certainly miss having my girls around, I could manage well not having them around. Besides, I felt confident that I had prepared them well to be wise, discerning, and valuable contributors to society. I knew they knew God and that, with His help, they could manage their own lives with confidence and success.

Well, pride comes before a fall, and I fell. Really hard. After my children left home to establish their own lives, I fell into a depression from which I found it difficult to extricate myself. In fact, my soul filled with such sorrow at not having my children around that I began to wonder if something was seriously wrong with me.

As I sought the Lord and searched for answers to the reason I felt as I did, Holy Spirit taught me a few things about how to deal with the sorrow of loneliness. I offer you what He taught me in the hope that it may help you, too, if you are experiencing loneliness, especially during this Christmas season:

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1) Recognize that loneliness is a form of grief.  And grief results from a sense of loss. When my children left home, I experienced great loss. The loss of their presence; the loss of their laughter; the loss of their companionship. I had convinced myself that this would never happen to me, but it did. Part of the pain of the sorrow I felt was the fact that I had presumed I would not experience such sorrow. Notice I said “presumed”.  My expectation had been a presumptuous expectation, also known as pride.

2) Recognize that loneliness is a symptom of separation from human contact. That said, the cure for loneliness is human contact. While our loneliness may stem from lack of contact with particular persons, we can assuage loneliness by focusing on bringing joy to others who cross our path. As we take our eyes off ourselves and put them on others, loneliness turns to joy. As I applied this principle by reaching out to others, I found that my loneliness lifted.

3) Be gentle on yourself during periods of loneliness, but do not indulge in self-pity.  While I did not feel sorry for myself, I was hard on myself for feeling lonely at my children’s departure. I did not understand that fulfillment in my professional life did not necessarily translate to fulfillment in my personal life. Being a mother has been one of the greatest joys of my life. So, why shouldn’t I feel sad when that responsiblity wound down? Why shouldn’t I feel lonely when my children left home forever to build their own lives? I did not understand that my feelings were normal for the situation and that, with time, I would adjust to my new life. And adjust I did. Now I enjoy the quiet times of refreshing that enable me to spend much more time with the Lord in worship and prayer and much more time writing stories for His glory.

“He who has God will never be lonely.”

4) Share your feelings of loneliness with someone you trust. Keeping the sorrow of your loneliness a secret will only worsen the loneliness. When we carry our burdens alone, they seem heavier than they truly are. But when we share them with a trusted family member or friend, the burden greatly lessens. As I shared my loneliness with trusted members of the Body of Christ, they prayed for me and spoke words of encouragement to me that played a major role in delivering me from the sorrow of loneliness.

5) Worship the Lord continually. Scripture commands us to put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. As I spent more time worshipping God and simply being in His Presence, my loneliness lifted.

As I look back on that time of sadness in my life, I realize that God was teaching me a powerful lesson. He was teaching me that I was never truly lonely at all because He was always with me.

And He is always with you, too. He will be your comfort. He will be your peace. And He will take away your loneliness by filling you with Himself. He who has God will never be lonely.

Today I have adjusted to my new situation. Moreover, I get to see my precious daughters far more frequently than I thought I would. God blessed me by moving my husband and me to the same area where our first-born daughter lives with her husband and our five grandchildren. Our second-born daughter lives only about 30 minutes away, and we get to see her often as well.

Your loneliness may not be related to empty nest syndrome. You may be lonely because of the recent death of your spouse, a child, a parent, or a dear friend. You may be lonely because your son or daughter was deployed, or you’ve just moved to a new state and don’t know anyone, or your family has disowned you. Whatever the reason, God knows.

And God cares!

Just as He promised, God has turned my loneliness and sorrow into great joy. And He will do the same for you.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Have you been secretly lonely? How have you handled your loneliness? Please leave a comment in the box below.

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The Prideful Heart

Do you have a prideful heart? The challenge with this kind of heart is that pride, by its very nature, is unaware of itself. This lack of awareness results in many life problems.

Before we explore these problems, let’s define what we mean by a prideful heart. To be “prideful” is to have.”a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority.” To be prideful is to think that one is better than others in one or more ways. To be prideful is to treat others as lesser than oneself in value, ability, or social status.

Surprisingly, pride is rooted in insecurity. While pride people may think they are not insecure, they are extremely so. A secure person rarely struggles with pride because he knows that his worth derives from God alone. A prideful person, on the contrary, usually struggles with insecurity because he thinks that his worth stems from his own performance, pedigree, or economic/social status.

So, what are some of the problems faced by a prideful person? 

The main problem area occurs in his relationships. Prideful people rarely enjoy deep, intimate relationships because they feel superior to most people.  This sense of superiority drives people away.

Prideful people also are self-sufficient and think they don’t need anyone.  So they do not humble themselves to seek help. All the while, they are the ones who need help the most.

Pride is a stench in the nostrils of God. Scripture tells us that “He hates the proud but gives grace to the humble” (Proverbs 3:34). Scripture slao warns us that pride comes before a fall (Proverbs 16:18).  Many are those who have thought themselves great only to discover, through some calamity, that only God is great.

If Holy Spirit has graciously shown you that you have a prideful heart, repent. Humble yourself before God and, as Scripture promises, He will lift you up (I Peter 5:6). And when God lifts you up, there is no falling down.

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(Attitude) The Audience of One

stressEverywhere I turn, I see us writers frenetically promoting, promoting, promoting. I am often amazed that we ever find time to write. While we must certainly address the business side of promoting our writing, at times I wonder if we are overdoing it or handling it all wrong.

Please allow me to offer a few thoughts on the topic:

1) Scripture tells us that promotion comes from the Lord (Psalm 75:6-7). No matter how much we may strive to promote ourselves, we will fall flat on our faces if God is not in it. 

2) Scripture tells us that unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it (Psalm 127:1).  No matter what fancy strategies we use to promote ourselves and our books, we will fall flat on our faces if God is not in it.

3) Scripture tells us that pride comes before a fall (Proverbs 16:18).  No matter how great our books are or how sleek our marketing campaign is, if we are not doing all in obedience to God and for His glory, we will fall flat on our faces.

Our purpose as writers on this earth is to exalt Jesus Christ, not ourselves. Our purpose as writers on this earth is to glorify God in all that we write and in all that pertains to our writing. Our purpose as writers on this earth is, ultimately, to please one Person only, the greatest of all Authors–our God in the Persons of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Will you join me today in taking stock of your writing life? I don’t know about you, but I need to do some repenting.

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