Do you have an angry heart? An angry heart often hides behind other emotions and is sometimes difficult to detect. An angry heart is also one of the most dangerous conditions of the heart because an angry heart, more than any other type, causes physical illness and broken relationships.
What are some of the signs of an angry heart?
- Depression. This may surprise you, but depressed people are often hiding behind anger. Depression has been called “anger turned inward.” If you are depressed, consider that underneath the depression, you may actually be angry–at someone else, at yourself, or even at God.
- Guilt. At times, anger can masquerade as guilt. If, for example, a person has done something wrong but refuses to own up to it, he may express this guilt as anger.
- Resentment. Resentment is defined as “a lingering ill will towards a person for a real or imagined wrong” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary). Such “lingering ill will” provides fuel for the igniting of anger over a period of time.
- False Expectations. This is, perhaps, one of the biggest causes of anger. When we expect a person with whom we are in relationship to act a certain way or to perform a certain way, we are setting ourselves up for anger. Eliminate unrealistic expectations and you will eliminate anger.
To discover the causes of your anger, learn to become self-aware. Pay attention to what triggers your anger and why. As you analyze your angry behavior, you will be surprised to discover that, often, the real cause of your anger is not related to the situation at hand. It is related to a past experience, and the current experience in some way triggers the memories of that past experience.
Finally, give your angry heart over to the Lord. Let Him heal the root causes of your anger and show you the truth about it. As He promises in John 8:32, knowing the truth will set you free from the ugly grip of anger.
Copyright 2015 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved.