Are You Allowing Yourself to Get Upset?

Setting Boundaries for What You Will Allow in Your Life

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
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No one can upset you without your permission!

Let those words sink in. No one–that means, NO ONE, can upset you unless you allow that person to upset you.

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When you think about it, this is wonderful news. It means that you have the ability and the power of choice to assume responsibility for your emotions. It also means that no matter how others treat you, you can remain calm, secure, and unshaken on the inside.

Whenever you allow someone to upset you, you are giving that person control over you. You are allowing that person to affect not only your emotions but also your entire life.  You are, in essence, allowing another person to rob you of your freedom and your peace.

Think about it.

Let’s say your husband forgets your anniversary. Instead of allowing that fact to upset you, turn the situation around and surprise him by cooking his favorite meal. This will defuse any temptation on your part to be upset, and it will remind you that that wonderful man you married is human, just like you, and sometimes forgets things.

My granddaughter recently got upset when her younger sister took from her a toy she wanted to play with. My older granddaughter came to me complaining.  “Nonna, she makes me so mad!” 

I smiled and replied, “Sweetheart, no one can make you angry without your permission.”

Her brows furrowed as her eyes questioned my sanity. “That’s not true, Nonna! I’m mad!”

“Of course, you’re mad, but you don’t have to be. You are the one allowing yourself to be mad.” 

After a few moments of conversation, she left feeling empowered that she could set boundaries as to what she would allow and not allow in her  life.

You can set the same boundaries. You can determine how you will respond to the actions of others.

You can refuse to allow anyone to upset you.

Now, that is freedom! 🙂 And that is peace!

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Shaping Your Circumstances

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
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One of the greatest gifts God gave you is the freedom to choose. How you use this freedom will determine your failure or success in life.

No matter what your past has been—whether you’re from Yale or jail—YOU can choose to make your future. YOU decide whether you will be a grasshopper or a giant in life.

Becoming a giant means being willing to change. It means being willing to give up negative habits and to replace them with positive ones. But the long-term rewards far outweigt the sacrifices. Indeed, as Zig Ziglar, well-known motivational speaker, used to say, “You don’t pay a price for success; you enjoy its benefits.”

Begin today to enjoy the benefits of success by getting rid of negative habits that have caused you to fail. Decide to take charge of your life.

Taking charge of your life begins with accepting full responsibility for your actions. It’s so easy to blame your parents, your environment, or your childhood circumstances for failure in your life. The truth is that YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS.

For many people, this is a truth too painful to admit. It’s much easier to find a scapegoat for failure. Acknowledging your total responsibility for your actions, however, frees you and puts you well on the road to success.

Remember: It’s not your past that matters; it’s how you react to your past. Likewise, it’s not your present situation that matters’ it’s how you respond to that situation.

NOTE: This post is excerpted from Dr. MaryAnn’s book, YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS, available in Kindle and Audiobook formats.
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Questions: 1) How are you responding to your current problems? 2) What do you need to change, if anything, about your responses?

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