Who Are You Really?

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio


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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, Novelist and Life Coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is Monday, August 24, 2020. Today’s Podcast is Episode #33 in Series 2020 and is titled “Who Are You Really?”




We hear a lot of talk these days about self-image, self-esteem, and self-fulfillment. 

All of this discussion has as its goal discovering who we really are. While discovering our true identity is crucial, most of us are going about it the wrong way. We are looking in the wrong place to discover who we really are. We are looking to ourselves.

Let’s take a deeper look. Have you noticed that all of these phrases–self-image, self-esteem, self-fulfillment–include the word “self”? It seems as though the entire goal of life is to find ourselves. We think that in finding ourselves, we will ultimately find the meaning of life and our purpose in life. 

But is this really true? Is it really true that when we find ourselves, we will discover who we really are? That we will discover the meaning of life and our life purpose?

The answer to this question lies in God’s Holy Word. What does God say about finding ourselves? In Matthew 10: 39, God says this about our search for ourselves:  “Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

Hmm. Now that’s the exact opposite of what the world has taught us, isn’t it? The world has taught us that we need to find ourselves in order to discover the meaning of life. God says that if we focus on finding ourselves to discover the meaning of life, we will eventually not only lose ourselves, but we will also miss the meaning of life. On the other hand, if we focus on finding God, we will find ourselves and the true meaning of our lives.

Why does finding ourselves depend on finding God? Because God is our Maker.

To expect the self to know the purpose for which it was made is like asking a car to know the purpose for which it was made. The car is incapable of knowing its own purpose. Only the maker of the car can tell us the purpose for which the car exists.

Likewise, the self is incapable of knowing its own purpose. Only the Maker of the self can tell the self the purpose for which the self exists.

While this may be a weak analogy, I think you get my point. 

You see, my friend, we were made in God’s image. Precisely for that reason, our true identity lies only in Him.  if we ignore or deny that truth, we will miss the very meaning of our lives.

The world’s emphasis on the self takes our eyes off the true source of our identity, and that source is God Himself. When we look to ourselves to define ourselves, we will be deceived and go astray. We will lose our bearings.

But when we look to God to define us, we will discover who we really are.

To seek our identity outside of this truth is to end up with a false image of who we truly are. Yet, this is exactly what Satan tempts us to do.

Liar that he is, Satan tempts us to believe that we can know ourselves by ourselves. He tempts us to isolate ourselves from our Maker. 

But isolation leads to desolation. And that is precisely the goal of the enemy. The Bible says he comes only “to steal, kill, and destroy.”

“Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” (Matthew 10: 39)

There is only one way that you can discover who you really are. That way is through Jesus Christ. He Himself said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life.”  So, if you want the truth about who you really are, follow Jesus. Only in Him will you discover your true identity.

Let me ask you: Have you been looking to Jesus Christ for your identity? Or have you been looking to yourself? If you have not sought your identity in Christ, repent and begin to do so now by accepting Him as your Savior and Lord. Pray this simple prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I’ve been looking to myself to discover who I am. No wonder I’ve been going around in circles. Only You can tell me who I really am because You made me. So, I come to You now and invite You into my life. Reveal to me who I am. But most of all, reveal to me Who You are, for it is only by knowing You that I will begin to know myself. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

If you prayed this simple prayer, please write to me at drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com. I would like to send you a little booklet that will help you get started in your walk with Christ. I also encourage you to get yourself a Bible and read it every single day. The Bible is God’s love letter to you, His manual for your life. In the Bible, God reveals Who He is, and He instructs you how to live.

Finally, ask the Lord to lead you to the church of His choice for you where you can learn about Him and have fellowship and encouragement with other Christ-Followers.

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How to Win at Life

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

The way you see yourself will inform your entire life.  

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If you want to win big, your self-image must be capable of thinking big and believing big.

You will never succeed beyond the level of your self-image.  Your self-image is your identity, but it may not be your true identity.

To win at life, you must know who you really are. You must see yourself as God sees you.  Anything less will keep you from winning at life.


To help you see yourself as God sees you, read my popular book, YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS! To purchase, click here. 

You Were Made for Greatness

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(Attitude) A Surefire Way to Fail at Writing

If you want to avoid failing at writing, then this could be the most important blog post you will ever read. You see, I’ve failed at writing, so I’m highly qualified to tell you what caused me to fail. I’m also highly qualified to tell you how I turned my failure into success.

First, let’s look at the problem. Failure at writing is due to a number of things, but I’ve boiled them down into one single thing:  a lack of belief in oneself.  Bottom line, writers who fail don’t believe they can succeed.

So, let’s say you’re one of those writers who don’t believe you can succeed at writing. Truth is, you’ve got a problem. A big problem. It’s called unbelief, and God isn’t too thrilled about unbelief.  Just check out Hebrews 11:6.  If you don’t solve your problem of unbelief, not only will you fail at writing, but, horror of horrors, you won’t please God.  As far as I’m concerned, nothing could be worse.

Not all that long ago (okay, 30-some years doesn’t seem so long ago), I was in your shoes. I doubted my ability to succeed as a writer. In fact, I couldn’t even call myself a writer. Right there was the single problem I talked about earlier: I didn’t believe in myself. 

So what did I do to change things? What did I do to start believing in myself?  I read a Scripture verse that said “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21).  An aha moment!  So, I grabbed hold of my tongue and commanded it to call me a writer. 

When people started to ask me what I did for a living, I said “I’m a writer.”  Of course, I nearly choked on the words at first. Calling myself something I wasn’t yet felt like lying, and I abhor lying. 

But I had also read Romans 4:17: “God calls those things that are not as though they were.”   Now, I knew for sure that God can’t lie, so I asked Him what He meant by that verse.  He said this verse contains the spiritual principle He used when He created the universe. When God created the universe, He first spoke words and then the words He spoke turned into the substance of the universe.

Another aha moment!  Since I’m made in God’s image, I, too, have to speak words before they turn into the substance of what I want.

So, I wasn’t lying at all. I was simply speaking the truth in advance. I figured if speaking the truth in advance is good enough for God, it’s certainly good enough for me. 

So I started speaking words to bring into being what I wanted.  I started calling myself a writer. I started saying that editors were asking me to write for them.  At that point in my career, editors were sending me volumes of rejection letters. 

But I kept speaking and speaking and speaking that I was a writer and that editors were asking me to write for them. 

A few years went by. I grew more comfortable with calling myself a writer. I started receiving a few acceptance letters. And then, lo and behold, the day came when an editor actually asked me to write for her.

Talk about being excited!  Yes, I was excited about the request to write. But I was more excited at the truth that God’s Word always works if we work it.

What worked for me can work for you, too. To help you, I’ve written a short booklet called Self-Image & the Writer.  It deals in about 10 pages with what I’ve discussed in this short blog post. You can purchase your copy through me for the very low price of only $0.49.  Yes, you read that right.  Less than half a dollar. Plus, it’s a quick read packed with punch. 

What is it worth to you to believe in yourself so that you can succeed at your writing?

Take advantage of this special offer today. The price will go back to $0.99 in the near future. You owe it to yourself to succeed at the calling which God placed on your life.  Order your copy of Self-Image & the Writer and turn your writing life around.

To show you how convinced I am that this little booklet will help you, I’ll throw in a free bonus of two articles I wrote. One is called “Five Fiction Facts” and the other is called “Hints for Reprints”.  Both are yours for free when you order Self-Image & the Writer.

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Thanks for your order. At last you’ve found a surefire way to succeed at your writing!  Congratulations! 

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