The Sting of Betrayal

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio



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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, novelist and life coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is Monday, January 3, 2022, and this is Episode #1 of Series 2022. This episode is titled “The Sting of Betrayal.”

There is, perhaps, no emotional pain more piercing than the sting of betrayal. We can usually push through the pain of losing a loved one, losing a job, or meeting with failure. But when it comes to betrayal, it is a pill very hard to swallow.

Why is this so? 

The main reason is that betrayal is the violation of a sacred trust. And the violation of a sacred trust produces shock, anger, and a deep sense of loss and grief. But, unlike other losses in life, betrayal carries with it the knowledge that it did not have to happen. It most often happens because of one’s deliberate, hurtful decision, usually resulting from selfishness. 

Betrayal produces great conflict in a relationship. The person one trusted implicitly is now the person one seemingly cannot trust at all. When the betrayal occurs in marriage, its effects can be devastating. 

Betrayal is a form of emotional abuse that can cause all kinds of physical and emotional symptoms. Some of these include sleeplessness, nightmares, anxiety, and self-doubt. 

The Bible has a lot to say about betrayal. Indeed, Jesus experienced the ultimate betrayal when Judas Iscariot sold him to the enemy for thirty pieces of silver.

So, how should we respond when we have been betrayed?

Scripture assures us that one who betrays will not go unpunished unless he repents. There are both spiritual and natural consequences to betrayal. At the same time, the Bible commands us to forgive the person who betrayed us.

Forgiveness is essential not only because God commands it, but also because forgiveness sets us free from the harmful effects of betrayal on our own minds and bodies. In Matthew 6: 14-15, the Word of God warns us that if we do not forgive, we will not be forgiven. This is a very serious matter.

If you have been betrayed, God is calling you today to forgive the person who betrayed you. As ludicrous as it sounds, you may even need to forgive God for allowing the betrayal. Remember this; Whatever God allows in our lives, He allows for our ultimate good.

Perhaps you have been the one who has betrayed. If so, you need to ask forgiveness of the person you betrayed. And then you need to do everything in your power to restore trust in your relationship. 

While betrayal is a very serious matter, it does not have to mean the end of a relationship. Trust can be restored if both parties are willing to make a commitment to complete reconciliation. Consider, for example, Jesus and Peter. After Peter’s betrayal, our Lord forgive him completely and entrusted him with a leadership position in the Church. 

There are three important steps we can take when we’ve been betrayed:

1. Call the betrayal for what it is: a violation of your trust.
2. Forgive the person who betrayed you and, if possible, be reconciled.

3. Learn from the betrayal and move on.

Finally, we must remember that all of us are broken people with the propensity to commit every sin. Just as we want to receive grace when we sin, so must we give grace when others sin against us. In doing so, we will be following the example of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Forgiving betrayal can come only through His power. If you have not yet received Christ, I urge you to do so now. Pray this simple prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I am deeply hurting because I have been betrayed. Yet, no one understands the sting of betrayal better than You. I need Your power to forgive the person who betrayed me. I need Your power to be set free from the pain of betrayal. So, I invite You now into my life now to be my Savior and Lord. Thank You for forgiving me of betraying You by my sin. Thank You for restoring me to fellowship with You. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

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I also encourage you to get yourself a Bible and read it every single day. The Bible is God’s love letter to you, His manual for your life. In the Bible, God reveals Who He is, and He teaches you how to live.

Finally, ask the Lord to lead you to the church of His choice for you where you can learn about Him and have fellowship and encouragement with other Christ-Followers. It is critically important in these last days to fellowship with other believers who are mature in Christ and who can guide you as you grow in Him.

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