The Sting of Betrayal

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

 

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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, novelist and life coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is Monday, January 3, 2022, and this is Episode #1 of Series 2022. This episode is titled “The Sting of Betrayal.”

There is, perhaps, no emotional pain more piercing than the sting of betrayal. We can usually push through the pain of losing a loved one, losing a job, or meeting with failure. But when it comes to betrayal, it is a pill very hard to swallow.

Why is this so? 

The main reason is that betrayal is the violation of a sacred trust. And the violation of a sacred trust produces shock, anger, and a deep sense of loss and grief. But, unlike other losses in life, betrayal carries with it the knowledge that it did not have to happen. It most often happens because of one’s deliberate, hurtful decision, usually resulting from selfishness. 

Betrayal produces great conflict in a relationship. The person one trusted implicitly is now the person one seemingly cannot trust at all. When the betrayal occurs in marriage, its effects can be devastating. 

Betrayal is a form of emotional abuse that can cause all kinds of physical and emotional symptoms. Some of these include sleeplessness, nightmares, anxiety, and self-doubt. 

The Bible has a lot to say about betrayal. Indeed, Jesus experienced the ultimate betrayal when Judas Iscariot sold him to the enemy for thirty pieces of silver.

So, how should we respond when we have been betrayed?

Scripture assures us that one who betrays will not go unpunished unless he repents. There are both spiritual and natural consequences to betrayal. At the same time, the Bible commands us to forgive the person who betrayed us.

Forgiveness is essential not only because God commands it, but also because forgiveness sets us free from the harmful effects of betrayal on our own minds and bodies. In Matthew 6: 14-15, the Word of God warns us that if we do not forgive, we will not be forgiven. This is a very serious matter.

If you have been betrayed, God is calling you today to forgive the person who betrayed you. As ludicrous as it sounds, you may even need to forgive God for allowing the betrayal. Remember this; Whatever God allows in our lives, He allows for our ultimate good.

Perhaps you have been the one who has betrayed. If so, you need to ask forgiveness of the person you betrayed. And then you need to do everything in your power to restore trust in your relationship. 

While betrayal is a very serious matter, it does not have to mean the end of a relationship. Trust can be restored if both parties are willing to make a commitment to complete reconciliation. Consider, for example, Jesus and Peter. After Peter’s betrayal, our Lord forgive him completely and entrusted him with a leadership position in the Church. 

 
There are three important steps we can take when we’ve been betrayed:

1. Call the betrayal for what it is: a violation of your trust.
2. Forgive the person who betrayed you and, if possible, be reconciled.

3. Learn from the betrayal and move on.

Finally, we must remember that all of us are broken people with the propensity to commit every sin. Just as we want to receive grace when we sin, so must we give grace when others sin against us. In doing so, we will be following the example of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Forgiving betrayal can come only through His power. If you have not yet received Christ, I urge you to do so now. Pray this simple prayer with me:

Lord Jesus, I am deeply hurting because I have been betrayed. Yet, no one understands the sting of betrayal better than You. I need Your power to forgive the person who betrayed me. I need Your power to be set free from the pain of betrayal. So, I invite You now into my life now to be my Savior and Lord. Thank You for forgiving me of betraying You by my sin. Thank You for restoring me to fellowship with You. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

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Finally, ask the Lord to lead you to the church of His choice for you where you can learn about Him and have fellowship and encouragement with other Christ-Followers. It is critically important in these last days to fellowship with other believers who are mature in Christ and who can guide you as you grow in Him.

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ARE YOU CONFIDING IN A MEGAPHONE?

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Recently, my husband and I were discussing the topic of confidentiality and our experiences with people whom we thought we could trust but who turned out to be untrustworthy. Sad to say–in my experience, at least–I’ve dealt with people who have betrayed a confidence and broadcast it in repeated episodes of gossip. My husband brilliantly called the practice of confiding in a gossip “confiding in a megaphone.”  Hence, the title of this blog post.

Scripture is replete with verses on the seriousness of gossip. Here are some of them:

___Exodus 23: 1 – “You must not pass along false rumors.

___James 4: 11 – “…do not slander one another.”

___Proverbs 11: 13 – “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

___Proverbs 16: 28 – “…a gossip separates close friends.”

___Proverbs 20: 19 – “A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.”

To gossip is to steal the good reputation of another. It is a form of murder and has wide-range ramifications. Perhaps you’ve heard the Jewish story called “The Tale of the Feathers.” If not, you can find it here.  It is a stunning example of the damage that gossip can do.

The next time you are tempted to gossip, ask yourself how you would feel if someone were to gossip about you. Decide today that you will not be a megaphone. Instead, you will be a true and trustworthy friend.

My Prayer for You Today: Lord Jesus, I ask that You would give my brother and sister discernment to know in whom they should confide and in whom they should not. I also ask that you would help us all to remember that trust is the foundation of friendship and that once trust is broken, it is virtually impossible to re-establish. So, make us trustworthy people who will keep a confidence when asked to do so. In Your precious Name I pray. Amen.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Have you ever been betrayed by a gossip? If so, how did you handle the betrayal? Please share your insights in the Comments box below. Thank you!

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PRAY, THEN GO PLAY!

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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Whenever my grandchildren scratch a knee or a finger, they run to their Mama for comfort. She kisses the boo-boo, prays for healing, and then bids them go play!

As I recently watched one of these scenarios transpire in my kitchen, Holy Spirit spoke to me. “When you come to me with a problem, do you pray and then go play? Or do you pray and then go fret?”

The Lord’s words brought me under conviction. Too often, I pray and then go fret. Too often, I continue to carry the burden I thought I’d laid at the Lord’s feet.

Too often, I worry.

Worry is a sin. When I worry, I am not trusting God. When I worry, I am not acting in faith. When I worry, I am moving in fear.

What about you? Do you pray and then go fret? Or do you pray and then go play?

Play symbolizes freedom from worry. Play symbolizes peace and rest.

Play symbolizes faith.

Not long ago, Holy Spirit awakened me with this Scripture verse: “The servant of the Lord must not strive” (2 Timothy 2: 24). To strive is another way of saying to worry, to take matters into my own hands, to try to fix things on my own. Truth be told, I can’t fix a thing without God’s help, especially the big problems of life. In every case, I need His wisdom, His discernment, and His guidance.

In every case, I need to pray, and then go play.

Since observing the “kiss-the-boo-boo” scenario in my kitchen, I’ve chosen to switch gears. From now on, when I run to God with a problem, I will leave it there, trusting Him to take care of it. He is bigger than I am, and He can certainly handle the worst of problems. 

And then, I will do what He says. “Pray, then go play!”

Now it’s your turn!  What will you choose to do with your burdens?  Will you choose to pray and then go play? Please post your comment in the box below. Thanks!

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Five Ingredients of Great Relationships

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Like all things that pertain to health, relationships require care.  Here are five tips for keeping your relationships strong:

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 1–LOVE. This means treating the other person in the relationship with respect, dignity, and encouragement. Love is the foundation of all good relationships.

2–COMMUNICATION. We communicate to understand. Understanding paves the way for trust. 

3–TRUST. Trust is the glue that keeps a relationship strong. Trust must be earned. 

4–FORGIVENESS. We all mess up. Forgiveness sets the stage for rebuilding a relationship.

5–TIME. Growth takes time. For a relationship to grow, you must invest time in it.


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How to Eliminate Fear from Your Life

A Simple Technique

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
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Fear has its roots in a lie. The lie is that we cannot trust God.

God is Love, but fear does not trust Love because fear does not know Love. 

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To eliminate fear from your life, get to know Love. Get to know God.  

The more you know God, the more you will trust Him.

The more you trust Him, the less fear you will experience in your life.

It’s as simple and profound as that.

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