Are You a Prisoner of Your Past?

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

Check out my 2018 Christmas Catalogue to Simply Your Christmas Shopping

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

“Matters of the Heart” is a weekly blog that deals with the deepest issues of the human heart, the issues we all face but sometimes don’t want to talk about. The heart is the programming center of our lives. What is programmed into our heart will affect every area of our lives. Learn how to examine your heart and how to program your heart for success.

AN INVITATION TO YOU: To follow this blog, click here 

If this blog has blessed you, please encourage your family and friends to subscribe as well. Thank you!

________________________________________________

Are you continually looking back on your life with regret over something you did or over a decision you made that changed the course of your life?

Do you find it difficult to move forward because you’re stuck in the past?

If so, take heart. I understand how you feel.

For a very long time, I struggled with a career decision I made before I came to Christ. Satan had me believing that that career decision put me out of God’s will for my life and, therefore, I was destined never to fulfill His purpose for me.

Along with the regret came emotional torment and self-condemnation. Now, had I been more spiritually astute, I would have recognized that torment and self-condemnation come from Satan, not from God. But I was in bondage to a mental and emotional stronghold, and I needed deliverance. Thank God, our Lord eventually delivered me from this lying, deceptive spirit.

Perhaps you, too, are in the grips of regret and remorse over something in your past, and you are having a very hard time letting go. You keep looking back, and each time you do, you are tormented and you beat yourself up. 

I say to you, STOP! 

Stop, and consider these steps that I myself took and that helped me to break free from the tyranny of the past:

1__PRAY. During my struggle, I continually cried out to God to help me break free. As much as I tried not to, I kept rehashing my career decision to the point that it became an obsession. This fact should have been a red flag to me. When a thought becomes an obsession, the thought has become a stronghold.

2__MAKE A QUALITY DECISION NOT TO LOOK BACK. When you are tempted to look back, resist the urge in the power of Christ. Only through His power and strength can you stop looking back. 

“I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead….”  Philippians 3: 13

The Apostle Paul had a lot to regret. Before he encountered Christ, he murdered Christians. He could have let that horrific sin destroy him if he had allowed it to torment him. But he didn’t.  In fact, it was the Apostle Paul who wrote theses famous words in Philippians 3: 13: “…one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.”

Paul discovered the secret to overcoming regret. The secret was to stop looking back and to start looking forward. If Paul could do this through the power of Christ, we can do it, too.

3__STAY FOCUSED ON THE FUTURE. Take captive every thought that tries to push you into the past and change its direction to the future. We cannot change the past, but we can shape the future by what we think. We can avoid future regrets by focusing on Jesus, our Lord Who holds the future.

If we are in Christ, He has redeemed every regret and has turned it into a blessing.  Romans 8: 28 tells us that “all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”

If you are in Christ, you have been called according to His purpose, no matter how many regrets you may have. Give all of those regrets to Him–every single one–and let Him bring beauty out of your ashes.

Remember this: God has a plan for your life, and it is a plan for good and not for evil (Jeremiah 29: 11). He also promises us in Philippians 1: 6 that He will complete the good work He began in us. So, expect Him to work out His plan for your life. 

Jesus is the Answer both to the regrets of the past and the hopes of the future. Turn to Him, and He will set you free from your past.

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Please share your questions and insights in the Comments box below. Thank you!

TWEETABLE:  “Are You a Prisoner of Your Past?” by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio @DrMaryAnnDiorio (Click to Tweet)


____________________________________________

To be sure you don’t miss any of my future blog posts, you may wish to subscribe to Matters of the Heart. CLICK HERE 

____________________________________________

JOIN MY TEAM

____________________________________________

Check out my You-Tube series, YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS!, based on my popular book by the same title.  

_______________________________________________

NOW AVAILABLE!

THE ITALIAN CHRONICLES: The Complete Trilogy
in a single e-book or print format.

Save almost $4.00 over the purchase price
of the three individual novels.

BUY E-BOOK NOW!

BUY PRINT BOOK NOW!

_______________________________________________

AVAILABLE FOR ORDER NOW! 

HARDCOVER
SOFTCOVER
E-BOOK

_______________________________________________

Need a break? Read my latest short story, “Fire-Engine Love.” Only $1.99!

Tammie Burke is expecting her second child. But when her husband is suddenly taken from her, Tammie faces the fear of having to raise their two children alone. Will her faith in God help her to put her life back together?

BUY NOW for ONLY $1.99

_______________________________________________

THE ITALIAN CHRONICLES TRILOGY

 Book 1: The Madonna of Pisano    Book 2: A Sicilian Farewell    Book 3: Return to Bella Terra

_______________________________________________

If you found this post helpful, please forward it to a friend. Thank you! You may also be interested in reading the following popular posts:

“How to Destroy Mental Strongholds”

“Convergence: Clear Sign of the End Times”

“The Rise of Wicca, Witches, and Warlocks” 

“Don’t Let Satan Play Your Pipes!”

“How to Recognize a Controlling Spirit”

“Sex and Soul Ties”

Please check our archives in the right sidebar for older posts on a variety of topics. You may also search for a particular topic in the search box at the top right. 

For additional encouragement, check out my podcasts at the following links:

A Moment with MaryAnn – Podcasts on Living the Good Life

Winning with the Word Podcast Series

Write Your Heart Out! – Podcasts for Writers

Please tell your family and friends about this blog and my other resources, and please pass this post on to them. Thank you!

___________________________________________

Copyright 2018 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be published or printed in any form whatsoever without the written permission of Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. You may contact her at info@maryanndiorio.com to request permission.

Amazon.com Required Disclosure: MaryAnn Diorio is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.

Disclaimer: This site uses cookies. Your continued use of this site constitutes your consent to our use of cookies. 

IS REGRET STEALING YOUR JOY?

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines 
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23

“Matters of the Heart” is a weekly blog that deals with the deepest issues of the human heart, the issues we all face but sometimes don’t want to talk about. The heart is the programming center of our lives. What is programmed into our heart will affect every area of our lives. Learn how to examine your heart and how to program your heart for success.

AN INVITATION TO YOU: To follow this blog, click here 

________________________________________________

Years ago, shortly after college, I made a career decision that I later came to regret. At the time, I had not been born again, and I didn’t know enough to pray and ask God for direction before making a decision. Also, I had no clue God had a plan for my life far different from my own plan for my life.

Over the subsequent years, that career decision filled me with regret. When I finally accepted Christ as my Savior, He began working on my heart to show me that the decision I had made would redound to my benefit. Indeed, now nearly half a century later, I can say that what I thought was a wrong decision did, indeed, redound to my great good.

How?

1–That seemingly wrong decision set me on a path that eventually led me to an encounter with Christ.

2–That seemingly wrong decision resulted in my marrying my wonderful husband of almost 49 years.

3–That seemingly wrong decision moved me into God’s true calling for my life–to write for Him.

What about you? Is there something in your life you regret? A sin? A decision? A lost opportunity? No matter what you wish you hadn’t done or hadn’t said, or had done and had said, when you turn to Jesus–in repentance, if necessary–He will bring good out of your regret.

Regret is a form of grief, and like all grief, it needs to be resolved in order for life to go on as God meant it to go on.  But remember this: Jesus took our griefs. In Isaiah 53: 4, we read this: “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.” So give your regret to Jesus and receive His joy in exchange.

The Apostle Paul had much to regret. Before encountering Christ, He murdered Christians. Yet, Paul said this about his life: I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead” Philippians 3: 13. 

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” – Romans 8: 28

Let’s follow Paul’s example and choose to forget the past and to look forward to what lies ahead. For those who are in Christ, what lies ahead can only be for our good.

My Prayer for You Today: Lord Jesus, I ask You to comfort all those suffering from regret. Give them revelation knowledge that, in Your mercy and grace, You will cause everything that has blighted their past to work for their good because they love You and are called according to Your purpose. Amen. 

Now, it’s YOUR turn: Have you experienced regret over something in your past? If so, how have you dealt with it?

TWEETABLE:  “IS REGRET STEALING YOUR JOY? by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio @DrMaryAnnDiorio (CLICK TO TWEET).

To be sure you don’t miss any of my future blog posts, you may wish to subscribe to Matters of the Heart. CLICK HERE 

____________________________________________

JOIN MY TEAM

____________________________________________

Check out my You-Tube series, YOU WERE MADE FOR GREATNESS!, based on my popular book by the same title.  

____________________________________________________________________

SOON TO BE RELEASED! STAY TUNED!


____________________________________________________________________

Need a break? Read my latest short story, “Fire-Engine Love.” Only $1.99!

Tammie Burke is expecting her second child. But when her husband is suddenly taken from her, Tammie faces the fear of having to raise their two children alone. Will her faith in God help her to put her life back together?

BUY NOW for ONLY $1.99

____________________________________________________________________

THE ITALIAN CHRONICLES TRILOGY

 

 

 Book 1: The Madonna of Pisano    Book 2: A Sicilian Farewell    Book 3: Return to Bella Terra

_____________________________________________________________________

If you found this post helpful, please forward it to a friend. Thank you! You may also be interested in reading the following popular posts:

“The Soul Roots of Sickness – Part Four”

“The Soul Roots of Sickness – Part One”

“The Soul Roots of Sickness – Part Two”

“The Soul Roots of Sickness – Part Three”

“Sex and Soul Ties” 

Please check our archives in the right sidebar for older posts on a variety of topics. You may also search for a particular topic in the search box at the top right. 

For additional encouragement, check out my podcasts at the following links:

A Moment with MaryAnn – Podcasts on Living the Good Life

Winning with the Word Podcast Series

Write Your Heart Out! – Podcasts for Writers

Please tell your family and friends about this blog and my other resources, and please pass this post on to them. Thank you!

___________________________________________

Copyright 2018 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be published or printed in any form whatsoever without the written permission of Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. You may contact her at info@maryanndiorio.com to request permission.

Amazon.com Required Disclosure: MaryAnn Diorio is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.

Disclaimer: This site uses cookies. Your continued use of this site constitutes your consent to our use of cookies. 

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSaveSaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

SaveSave

How to Deal with Regret

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
______________________________________

NOTE: My latest book, THE DAYSTAR DEVOTIONAL, has just been released. Please see details at the end of this post. Thanks!

Many, if not all, of us have at one time in our lives made a decision we now regret. For me, it was a job decision. For you, it might have been a marriage decision or a location decision or a decision that led you into sin. For the Apostle Paul, regret was rooted in his persecution and murder of Christians before he himself had an encounter with Christ. But, whatever the situation, God provides a sound way to deal with regret.

beauty girl cry

  1. Make a decision to put the regret behind you. While a decision may not immediately remove the emotion of regret, it will set you on the right path to eliminating your regret. Philippians 3: 13 says this: “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
  2. Recognize that regret is a weapon Satan uses to rob you of hope. If Satan can get you into depression and despair, he has you. Why? Because without hope, you cannot have faith in the future (Hebrews 11: 1). The Word of God says this in 1 Peter 5: 8: “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” Don’t let Satan devour you with regret. Stay alert to his devices.
  3. Give your regret to the Lord. If your regret was caused by sin, then simply repent and move on. If your regret was caused by a poor decision, then trust that God will work that poor decision for your good. Romans 8: 28 says this: ” . . . all things work together for good to them that love God . . . .”

The best way to avoid regret is to remain closely connected with Holy Spirit and to seek His counsel and direction for every decision you make. As you follow Holy Spirit’s leading, you will make right decisions that will bring you the peace and joy He wants you to experience for the rest of your life.

TWEETABLE: How to Deal with Regret by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio (CLICK TO TWEET).

Daystar Devotional-hardbackcoverstanding_885x1298

 

The Daystar Devotional is a compilation of weekly devotionals I wrote for almost six years. At popular reader request, I have compiled these devotionals into a single volume for your convenience. I trust this book will encourage you in your walk with Jesus.

Available on Amazon for only $3.99. To purchase your copy, click here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

________________________________

Post Footer Content

____________________________________________

JOIN MY TEAM

____________________________________________

 

Are You a Victim of the “If Onlys”?

Three Tips for Handling Regret

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
_______________________________________

If you’ve lived a few years on this earth, you’ve most likely made some decisions you’ve regretted. Perhaps you made a poor financial decision that now has you in tremendous debt. Or perhaps you had an abortion and are now tormented with agonizing feelings of guilt. Whatever the case may be, how you handle your regret will determine the kind of future you will live.

Young sad girl sitting alone in an empty room

Some people have the ability simply to face their mistakes, learn from them, and move on. Others, however, have a very difficult time letting go of the past. Instead of accepting the fact that they’ve missed the mark, they allow the mistake to torment them. They keep thinking about it, wondering what their life would be like if they had not made the mistake. They allow themselves to become a victim of the if onlys.

The Bible, God’s manual for man, addresses every problem you will ever face, including the problem of the if onlys. Let’s take a look at what it says.

The Apostle Paul writes in Philippians 3:13-14: “One thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Before giving his life to Jesus Christ, Paul had Christians killed. He would drag men, women, and children out of their homes and turn them over to the authorities to be beaten, imprisoned, and murdered.

After he had an astounding encounter Christ, Paul deeply regretted what he had done and asked God to forgive him. Paul could have allowed the memory of his past sins to stand in the way of being all that God created him to be, but Paul refused to do so.

The above verse reveals the three steps he took to overcome the regrets of his past. These same three steps will also help you to get rid of the if onlys of your past.

1) Forget those things that are behind.Great!” you say. “How do you forget the mistakes of the past?” First of all, you admit them. Secondly, you repent of them by asking God to forgive you and by determining that you will not make those mistakes again. Third, you decide, by an act of your will, to put your mistakes behind you.

God, in His great mercy, has made provision to cover all our mistakes, our poor decisions, our regrets. That provision is Jesus Christ. He’s called our Redeemer because He redeems us from the past. To redeem means to release from blame.

Jesus releases you from the blame of the sins of your past. Not only that, He gives you a bright future. He says, “My plans for you are for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11). All you have to do is invite Him into your life and let Him redeem you.

2) Reach forward to those things which are ahead. Living in the past is like trying to drive while continually looking in your rear-view mirror. Sooner or later, you will crash. The same is true in life. If you keep looking back, you’ll never get to your destination.

Concentrate, instead, on those things that lie ahead. What are those things? They are the dreams that God has placed in your heart. Dreams energize your life and pull you into the future. The Bible says that a person without a dream will die (Proverbs 29:18). He may not die outwardly, but he will surely die inwardly.

3) Press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. The greatest goal that you can pursue is Jesus Christ. As you look to Him to save you, you will find all of your if onlys slipping away. He Himself will cut the cables that have kept you emotionally bound to your past, and, like an eagle, you will soar joyfully to the great heights of freedom for which God created you.

_______________________________

In my newest work of fiction, SURRENDER TO LOVE, young widow and life coach, Dr. Teresa LopezPicMonkeyFINAL061815416pm Gonzalez, regrets that she did not have more time with her dead husband. Join her as she struggles to overcome regret and move into the future God has ordained for her.

Available in Kindle and print versions.

You may leave a comment by clicking here. To receive these blog posts in your emailbox, please click here.

If you found this post helpful, please pass it on to someone who can benefit from reading it. Thank you!

If you have any questions, you may contact me as follows:

Email: drmaryann@maryanndiorio.com
Snail Mail: PO Box 1185, Merchantville, NJ 08109
Tel. 856-488-3580
________________________________
Copyright 2015 by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be published or printed in any form whatsoever without the written permission of Dr. MaryAnn Diorio. You may contact her at maryann@maryanndiorio.com to request permission.

Photo Source: Fotolia.com File: #40298475 | Author: mariazin

Amazon.com Required Disclosure:  MaryAnn Diorio is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.

Dr. Diorio is a Certified Life Coach, a Certified Biblical Counselor, and a Certified Behavioral Consultant. She is also an award-winning, widely published author of fiction for children and adults. You may reach her at maryann@maryanndiorio.com  or via one of her social media venues below:

The Trap of Regret

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines
the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4:23
_____________________________________________

Do you have regrets? If so, are they keeping you in bondage? Are they preventing you from moving on with your life, from taking risks, from becoming who you were meant to be?

Virtually every human being who has ever lived has experienced regret. Whether it was the regret of not having done something one should have done or of having done something one should not have done, the feeling of regret that follows can be tormenting. But the good news is that Jesus Christ can set you free from the prison of regret.

Yes, regret is a prison. A spiritual prison as well as a mental prison. The person who lives in regret builds walls around his thinking that keep out the truth and protect the lie.

I know. It happened to me.

Years ago, I made a career decision that I deeply regretted after having made it.  It was one of those decisions that was irreversible and one with whose consequences I would have to live for the rest of my life.  For a long time afterward, I chastised myself for having made that decision. It set me on a path that, at the time, seemed destructive to my career but, in reality, led me to the vocation for which God created me.

But I didn’t know it at the time, so I allowed the spirit of regret to enslave me. Yes, regret is a spirit. An evil spirit that will rob you of your joy and, if you do not stop it in its tracks, even of your destiny.

Maybe you, too, have made a wrong decision either by making a wrong choice or by not choosing at all.  No decision is also a decision. If so, what the Lord did for me, He will do for you.  Listen to what He promises to those who have regrets:

1) “And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans” (Romans 8:28 TLB). In His infinite love, God has a way of taking every experience of our lives and weaving it into the beautiful tapestry of our destiny.  With the benefit of hindsight, I now realize, many years later, that the career decision I made back then was, ultimately, the right one for me. And, most important, it was the decision that God had ordained for me. This leads to my next point.

2) “The Lord guides us in the way we should go and protects those who please him” (Psalm 37:23).  When we love the Lord, He directs our steps. Even though I thought I was making a mistake, I was actually following the path God had laid out for me. 

3) “I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten” (Joel 2:25).  Even if you did make a decision that allowed the enemy (“the swarming locust”)  to rob you, the Lord will restore what the enemy stole from you. This is wonderful news.

So be encouraged. All is not lost. Jesus promises you that His plans for you are for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

Questions: 1) Do you have any regrets? 2) How have you handled those regrets? 3) Do you believe that Jesus can take those regrets and fashion them into something beautiful? You can leave a comment by clicking here. To receive these blog posts in your emailbox, please click here.
________________________________________________________________________________
Copyright 2015 by MaryAnn Diorio, PhD.  All Rights Reserved.