How to Get Rid of Emotional Pain?

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, novelist and life coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is Monday, January 10, 2022, and this is Episode #2 of Series 2022. This episode is titled “How to Get Rid of Emotional Pain.”

Are you hurting on the inside? Are you struggling with negative emotions that you don’t know how to get rid of? Do you sometimes feel as though you simply can’t go on?

If so, I empathize with you. For many years, I carried emotional pain around like a noose around my neck or a ball and chain around my ankle. No matter what I did to get rid of it, it just hung around, crippling my life and keeping me from the freedom I so longed to experience.

But then one day, I learned the secret of getting rid of emotional pain.

But, before I reveal the secret, let’s talk a little about the nature of emotional pain. Emotional pain has its roots in our thinking. Yes, you heard me right. In our thinking. You see, it’s not what happens to us that matters; it’s how we think about what happens to us that matters. I’m going to repeat that statement: It’s not what happens to us that matters; it’ show we think about what happens to us that matters.

In other words, our perspective on our traumatic experience is what gives that experience control over our lives or gives us control over the experience.

For example, two children can both experience the pain of a parent’s alcoholism, but one child learns from the pain of that experience and creates a successful life for herself, while the other child gets angry with God and ends up an alcoholic like his parent.

Perhaps you are the child of an alcoholic or a drug addict. Perhaps you are the product of childhood abuse or trauma. Perhaps you experienced a tragic divorce or lost a child. Perhaps you went bankrupt and lost everything you owned. Whatever your traumatic experience, it left you with a lot of emotional baggage that you now have to deal with.

You’re carrying that emotional baggage around with you, and, whether you realize it or not, it is affecting your relationships. It is causing you continual pain. Isn’t it about time to get rid of it?

 

It is not what happens to you that matters. It is how you perceive what happens to you that matters.

 

When I was five years old, I was struck by a car. My parents took me for dead, but, thankfully, I was merely unconscious. During that horrible incident, I sustained a fracture of my left clavicle. I remember awakening to consciousness in the hospital, being held down flat on a stretcher, with a group of white-coated medical personnel pushing down on my shoulder to put it back in place. I screamed in agony at the excruciating pain. In my little five-year-old mind, I did not realize that the doctors and nurses hovering over me were only trying to help me. I perceived them as trying to hurt me even more. In short, I was traumatized by my wrong perception.

Several years later, my parents went through a bankruptcy. We lost our home and had only 30 days to find a house to rent. But no one would rent to a family of seven children. I remember driving around with my pregnant mother, looking for a house. Person after person slammed the door in our faces, saying to my mother, “We refuse to rent to you. Your children will destroy our home.” Little did they know that we were well-behaved children whose parents had trained us to respect the property of others. 

I remember a very cold winter when we ran out of food to eat and oil to heat our home. A very hungry bunch of little children gathered around our old fireplace, stomachs growling as we huddled together around the fire in our winter coats. It was then I learned that, just as the Bible says, poverty is a curse.

I could go on and on with other negative experiences that brought great pain to my life. I’m sure you have your own set of experiences, many of them far worse than mine.

So, why is it that today I am free of the emotional pain of the past? There is only one reason: Jesus Christ set me free!

When I had had enough of emotional pain, I got smart and turned to Jesus. I invited him into my life and received Him as my Savior and Lord. It was then that He began the process of restoring my soul, a promise that He makes in Psalm 23: 3 to all who need freedom from emotional pain.

You might be thinking, “But, Dr. MaryAnn, you don’t understand. My emotional pain is too great.” 

I would say to you, “God is bigger than your pain.” No matter what you’ve been through or what you are going through now, Jesus is bigger than your pain. In fact, He took your pain to the Cross with Him. He doesn’t want you to have to carry it any longer.

So, where do you begin?  

You begin by admitting that you’ve been carrying around a lot of emotional baggage that you want to get rid of. Then you ask Jesus to come into your life to remove the baggage. He will. One layer at a time. Like an onion. He peels away a little. You cry a little. Then He peels away a little more, and you cry a little more. Until one day, you discover that the entire onion has been peeled.  All the pain has been removed. You are finally free!

God did not create us to carry emotional pain. He created us to live joy-filled lives of love and peace. This is what He wants for you.

But do you want it for yourself? Do you want it enough to lay down your own way of getting rid of pain and choosing God’s way? Do you want freedom from pain enough to turn your back on those drugs, those cigarettes, that alcohol, that illicit sex, that pornography, that food addiction?  If so, you are ready to be free of your emotional pain.

Let’s pray together now:

Lord Jesus, I’m tired of carrying around emotional pain. I’m tired of hurting on the inside. Tired of sleepless mights. Tired of fear and worry. Tired of regret and remorse. Tired of hangovers and false highs. Tired of the torment of the past. I’m deciding now to give you my pain because I can’t carry it any longer. And I know that when I give you my pain, You will begin to clean me up. And I’m asking for You to restore my soul as You promise me in Psalm 23: 3.  I invite You now into my life to be my Savior and Lord. Thank You for giving me new life. Thank You for restoring my soul. Thank You for removing the emotional pain of the past. In Your Name I pray. Amen.

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How to Control Your Thinking

by Dr. MaryAnn Diorio

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Hello and Happy Day! This is Dr. MaryAnn Diorio, novelist and life coach, welcoming you to another episode of Winning with the Word. Today is February 8, 2021, and this is Episode #2 of Series 2021.

In my last blog post and podcast, I talked about how to think like a winner. We explored certain principles from the Bible that, if applied, will help us to win in life. If you did not listen to that podcast, I encourage you to go back and listen to it.

Today, we’re going to discuss  strategies for thinking in a way that will ensure that our thoughts will lead us to success. By success, I do not mean only financial success. More importantly, I mean peace of mind, good health, and joy in living.

The strategies I will discuss always work if we work them, because they originate in God’s Holy Word, the Bible. And the Bible is Truth in written form.

So, let’s begin.

Principle #1: Our life is shaped by our thoughts.

This is a law established by God, a law that we cannot change, just as we cannot change the law of gravity. 

Because this law cannot change, we can either adapt to it or rebel against it. If we are wise, we will adapt to the law and allow it to work in our favor. 

Several Scripture verses teach this principle that our thoughts shape our lives. For instance, in my last podcast, we unpacked Proverbs 23: 7: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” We saw that the way we think in our hearts will determine the way our lives turn out. We also learned what the Bible means by the heart.

The second principle in controlling our thinking is found in Romans 12: 2 NKJV: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

In this verse, we learn that in order to prove–or experience–God’s perfect will, we need to be transformed. In order to be transformed, we must renew our minds. Renewing our minds means training them to think in a new way, a way different from the way we have been thinking up until now.

But the key here is that the new way of thinking we must choose is God’s way of thinking as found in the Bible. Any other way of thinking will not give us the desired result of a successful life.

So, Principle #2 can be summarized as follows: We experience God’s perfect will for our lives by changing the way we think and aligning our thinking with the Bible.

So many of us have believed lies all of our lives. We have embraced these lies as truth. Consequently, we have experienced the negative effects of those lies.

For example, we may have been told as children that we would never amount to much or that we were clumsy or stupid or fat. We may have been told that we were unwanted or an accident or a mistake. Whatever the case may be, we accepted those lies as truth, and those lies have controlled us all of our lives.

Yet, we may not even be aware that we are being controlled by lies. Instead, we suffer silently the emotional pain of broken relationships, damaged careers, and other failures, totally unaware that all of this suffering is caused by the lies we believe.

But I have great news for you! Jesus Christ has come to set us free! To give us life and life more abundantly (John 10: 10). We have only to accept that abundant life by inviting Jesus into our broken lives. He is Life! 

Unless we receive Jesus as our Savior and Lord, we will not experience the fullness of the abundant life that He died to give us. It all starts with accepting Christ–in other words, with being born again. Once we are born again, the Holy Spirit begins the process of cleaning us up and making us like Jesus.

We don’t come to Christ already cleaned up. No. That would be impossible. We come to Christ in order to get cleaned up. So don’t let your sin and your failures hold you back. Come to Jesus now!

After we come to Jesus, the Holy Spirit begins the lifelong process of cleaning us up. A huge part of this process is helping us to get rid of the lies we believe.

When I first became a Christian, my life was controlled by many lies. As a result, I suffered much emotional and physical pain. That pain drove me to Christ Who then began in me the process of demolishing the lies and rebuilding my life on the Truth.  

So, if you are reading this blog post or listening to this podcast, I understand. I’ve been there. And I can tell you with all sincerity of heart that you can come out of that painful place and know a joy and a peace beyond your wildest dreams.

That joy and peace are found only in Jesus Christ. And it is He alone who will help you to change your thinking to align with His. Indeed, what the Bible means by renewing the mind is to stop thinking the world’s way and to start thinking God’s way. 

Well, how do we do that?

It is a three-step process that involves identifying the lies we believe; repenting of having believed them: and replacing those lies with the truth as found in the Holy Bible.

So, in three simple words, the three steps are:

1. Identify.

2. Renounce (Repent).

3. Replace.

So many of us have believed lies all of our lives. We have embraced those lies as truth. Consequently, we have experienced the negative effects of those lies as they destroyed our lives and kept us from experiencing what Jesus died to give us.

But God wants to set us free! And the way we cooperate with Him in that process is by renewing our minds.

The final strategy for success that I’d like to discuss with you today is found in the Book of Joshua 1: 8: “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.”

This verse reveals Principle #3: Obeying God’s Word is the only way truly to succeed in life. Success involves far more than money. It involves peace of mind, physical well-being, and healthful relationships. Obeying the Bible will give us all of these things. 

But it all happens because we align our thinking with what the Bible teaches. In other words, we obey the Word of God. We do life His way, not our way. His way always works. Our way doesn’t.

Remember this: How we think determines our destiny!

Once we recognize the lies we have believed, and once we have repented of them and renounced them, and once we have replaced them with the truth, we still have something else to do. We still must continually monitor our thoughts to determine if they are from God or from the enemy. In short, as the three-year-old little boy of a friend of mine once said, we have to think about what we are thinking about.

The only way to do this effectively is to know what God says in His Word. When we do, we will instantly recognize a lie. When we recognize a lie, we must then lasso it, take it captive–as the Bible says–and give it to Jesus. We must lay that lie at the foot of the Cross where it was defeated once and for all. And then we must replace that lie with the truth.

Renewing the mind is a lifelong process. The Bible describes it as the process of sanctification in John 17: 17: “Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth.”  The encouraging news is that the Holy Spirit helps us in this process. We read this in Philippians 2: 13: ” . . . for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.”

So, be encouraged that you are not in the mind-renewing process all by yourself. The Holy Spirit is with you, leading you and guiding you into all truth.

But perhaps you do not know the Holy Spirit. Perhaps you do not have Him in your life to help you to renew your mind. If this describes you, then let me urge you to accept Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. When you do, the Holy Spirit of Jesus will come into your life. He will give you a new spirit and make you a new creation on the inside.

If you have not yet accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord, pray this simple prayer with me now:

Lord Jesus, I want to know You. I receive You now as my Savior and Lord. Forgive me of my sin. Cleanse me of all unrighteousness. Give me Your grace to follow you all the days of my life. Thank You for satisfying my need for You. I ask and receive in Your precious Name. Amen.

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